To ask Is this a sign of lack of confidence?

[Julythe24th2008]

A woman I knew from school I believe lacked confidence and is seen by others as a passive person. When I introduced her to a friend from another college she didn't know she began sort of 'overcompensating' if you know what I mean and it was all rather uncomfortable. She was asking my college too many questions and seemed a bit ill at ease while my other friend (who seemed more at ease) was simply staring and not sure what to say.
Is this a sign of lack of confidence almost feeling 'obligated' to talk iyswim?

Rude of your friend to leave her hanging and not make conversation or ask questions back tbh

littlejalapeno - yes - I can definitely see what you mean.

But from my knowledge of these women they have different 'styles' in their manner. Neither is loud - both could reasonably be described as quiet but my college friend who didn't ask the questions is more confident as she's more comfortable in her own skin iyswim.

Some people over talk if they’re meeting someone new and don’t know what to say so just keep filling the air. It’s quite common, and kind to help them out by asking them questions etc.

Yes it is a sign of lack of confidence/social anxiety. She can’t help it though so I’m not sure what the aim of the thread is.

Perhaps it could a manifestation of nerves or social anxiety, not everyone becomes shy/mute, some just can’t stop talking instead

Yes, totally. I have social anxiety. I feel the need to over talk so people don’t think I’m rude or unwilling to participate in the conversation. Agree, rude of your friend not to respond. I’m sure the silence didn’t help her feel any better

Actually this happened to me just before lockdown. This guy who fancies me finally had the opportunity to talk to me 1-1. He literally bombarded me with questions upon questions, wouldn’t even let me answer before he asked something else! Although it was sweet it definitely made me feel like he had “no game” or wasn’t confident in dating

LouiseTrees - the aim of the thread really was to dispel the often wrongly held belief that

quiet = lack of confidence

Indeed. You can lack confidence and be loud or be quiet and confident OP.

Some people are quiet and don’t contribute much to a conversation because of lack of confidence.
And some people over chatter and dominate a conversation because of a lack of confidence.
Anxiety manifests in different forms for different people.

People who lack confidence or feel self conscious are often advised to try not to think about themselves but to focus on the other person, perhaps that’s what your friend was doing by asking lots of questions, trying to show interest in the other person.
Perhaps she hasn’t quite got the hang of it yet and her nerves got the better of her.