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Original poster

WIBU to report it stolen? *light-hearted - sort of!*

25 replies

WhycantIsleep · 30/05/2020 17:29

P (doesn't deserve the D) has taken my car yet again. He refused to fill it up yesterday for me even though he took it to the petrol station to fill up cans of petrol which left my car stinking. I would've reimbursed him for the fuel but he just couldn't be bothered to help me out. I even said to him it would really help me out but he didn't. I couldn't put our baby in there this morning until it had aired as it was that strong. Now he has gone to run "errands" and left me to sort out his mess and other crap he has dumped on me. So WIBU to report it stolen?*

*Obviously I wouldn't really as a huge waste police time but it has really pissed me off.

OP posts:
HollowTalk · 30/05/2020 17:30

What will you have to sort out as a result of him being a complete and utter twat?

InfiniteSheldon · 30/05/2020 17:32

Why would you need to reimburse him for petrol when you have a baby?

Babymamamama · 30/05/2020 17:33

Why is it's light hearted? Why would any P refuse to fill up a car which is used by his DP and DC? What's the issue? Do you not share finances/expenses? I wouldn't be impressed in your shoes.

KTheGrey · 30/05/2020 17:33

I don't know about reporting it stolen, but I would take back the car keys and hide them!

Original poster
WhycantIsleep · 30/05/2020 17:34

Car is mine. My car - my fuel. Our finances are separate. I don't pay for his fuel. I need to get baby to bed and clean up and do dinner. Baby is fed.

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SunshineCake · 30/05/2020 17:34

Don't sort out his mess.

GiveMeStrengthOrAHobby · 30/05/2020 17:36

Get the keys back, take him off the insurance. And tell him you want fuel money for the car. Else you will have take it from the food budget.

HappyintheHills · 30/05/2020 17:38

He doesn’t deserve the P - that’s no partner

Original poster
WhycantIsleep · 30/05/2020 17:41

Maybe I should but I just think it is always worth being able to drive the other vehicle. Although I can't drive his as the baby won't go in his car as the car seat doesn't fit.

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BillywilliamV · 30/05/2020 17:43

If you have a baby I strongly suggest sorting out joint finances !

JohnFinlaysNewTeeth · 30/05/2020 17:47

Jesus Fucking Christ woman, raise your standards!!

InFiveMins · 30/05/2020 18:03

He sounds abusive - you asked him to fill your car with fuel whilst he was there getting fuel anyway and he didn't? Sounds like he enjoys making your life difficult. I'd call him to come back and look after the baby because you are going out - make his life difficult for a change.

Macncheeseballs · 30/05/2020 18:07

Why don't you just share money

HollowTalk · 30/05/2020 18:17

Oh god, don't suggest sharing money with a man like this!

3cats · 30/05/2020 18:20

@HollowTalk

Oh god, don't suggest sharing money with a man like this!
Exactly!!

Why on earth are you sorting out his mess, OP?

Hide the car keys from now on. He sounds like a twat though.

InfiniteSheldon · 30/05/2020 18:23

Honestly this is wrong on so many levels and the main one being you can't see it. There's nothing lighthearted about the way thus man treats you and yes you should call the police and report the car as stolen if he ever uses it again.

DuckALaurent · 30/05/2020 18:25

From your OP, I’m sorry you can’t see what a shit partner you have and how your life would be better without him.

Original poster
WhycantIsleep · 30/05/2020 18:39

I'm glad I'm not just being petty then. However, didn't quite expect the strong responses. Feeling rather depressed now rather than angry.

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RJnomore1 · 30/05/2020 18:41

Please tell me it’s not his dinner you’re making?

FredWinnie · 30/05/2020 18:45

Get the keys back, take him off the insurance. And tell him you want fuel money for the car.

This x 100

Plus, down tools and stop doing things for him

Lordamighty · 30/05/2020 18:51

Nothing lighthearted about your DP. Get him off your insurance pronto.

BoomBoomsCousin · 30/05/2020 19:15

Why are you living with someone who wouldn’t put petrol in your car when they were with your car at the petrol pump? Is that just a blip in an otherwise loving relationship, or is that a typical example of how little he cares about you?

I’m not sure that the issue you really need to solve here is him driving your car.

Babymamamama · 30/05/2020 19:15

He's the petty one not you. I can't stand mean spirited behaviour like that. What kind of partner doesn't fill up the car when he's at the garage anyway and you are caring for his young child. I'd be reading him the riot act for that.

Ohtherewearethen · 30/05/2020 19:41

Why didn't he take his own car to run his errands? He sounds like a complete bellend. How can he justify using your car, to go to a petrol station, but refuse to replace fuel he has used, even though you are paying for it? And it made your car unusable for your baby? He needs to get a car that will fit his baby's car seat in it, not expect your car to take the battering as you will then have the financial burden of buying a new one when yours gets wrecked. What a twat. I couldn't see him in the same way again after this.

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 30/05/2020 19:45

I could not be living with someone like that.

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