To feel sad for dh regarding his dm and his 30th

[Mummypig2020]

It’s my Dh 30th tomorrow. Every year we get his mum and card and present. On her 50th we took her out for a meal.

She’s not a very consistent person anyway, and comes and goes out of ours/our daughters life. We contact her and she barely contacts us. But on fb and to her friends she’s this doting nanna who has see dd 3 times last year. We live in the same town. She doesn’t like us going to hers,plus she smokes a lot inside.

Anyway, it’s his 30th tomorrow and she turned up yesterday With a bag of old tins of soup and some pickled onions she made last year, for his birthday.

She couldn’t even get him a card, but can her friends by the post on Facebook.

I’m so pissed off, hes upset even though he won’t admit it.

He doesn’t even like bloody pickled onions🤢.

She sounds awful but she won’t change. What was she like when DP was a child?

Not good, she claims she was but both Dh and dsil dont have any sort of bond with her. It makes me sad. Dd3 is always asking for her :(

It’s a passive aggressive “fuck you” to your DH and it’s shit.

Someone will be along in a minute saying what a shame for her that her son and DIL are so ungrateful but don’t listen to a word of it.

Post on facebook & tag her in a picture of the fabulous birthday gift.
No probably that's 'ungrateful' 🙈

There's not a lot you can do really. Poor DH..

I just imagine not even getting a card for my Dc for their birthday no matter what age. The lockdown is no excuse either because she still goes shopping/she’s savvy online.

She sounds as daft as a brush OP.

She sounds as daft as a brush OP.
No she absolutely doesn’t!!! She sounds horrible. I’m not sure you understand what the expression ‘daft as a brush’ means

Wow. Old soup and pickled onions. My MIL is shit like this. She buys me a thoughtful present and then DH a 'joke' type gift. A novelty hipflask or other such tat. She's a fucking cow an all mind.

I agree, if she's such a big Facebook user take a photo of the soup/onions and post it to her wall thanking her.

I concur with daft as a brush! I'd actually laugh if someone handed me that for my birthday... well probably not if that someone was my mother... does she have some sort of issues? On what planet would she think that's an acceptable gift? I'm guessing there's more? What was her life like with her DC when they were growing up? Was their dad around?

YANBU though.

@Riddikulusness
I thought it came from an 17 century phrase
"daft as a besom" meaning stupid or lacking in understanding.
But I agree, she sounds horrible and cruel.

@Riddikulusness
I did just google it as I wasn't actually sure
😂

It's not dementia is it? It's the kind of thing my mum would do. Although she forgot my 40th entirely, which made me sad- not cos I cared, but the thought that she couldn't loom back.and say 'wow, 40 years since I had my first".