...to be annoyed he sent the picture of me?

[Cdm2020]

Currently very insecure about my body, due to pregnancy weight, followed by lockdown, comfort eating through the stress etc. I realise there are far more important things to worry about just now but that doesn’t mean I stop feeling upset about it.

Anyway DH took an unflattering photo of me last night in which I felt I looked awful. I immediately asked him to delete it and asked if could get a nicer one when hair was done/ better angle etc.

He told me he had deleted it. But then his mother text me to talk about the background of the photo (our garden) and I realised he’d sent her it in a group family WhatsApp chat they have.

I’m now really angry with him, he knows how I feel just now about my appearance and insecurities. I specifically asked him to delete it but instead he sent it to 10+ people.

I know it’s not a big deal in the grand scheme of things but AIBU to get annoyed about it?

YABU - no big deal; get over it no one cares
YANBU - it was pretty inconsiderate and disrespectful, especially telling me it was deleted

@Cdm2020 - congratulations on your weight loss! thats great! <img loading="lazy" class="inline-flex mumsnet-emoji" alt="Star" src="https://www.mumsnet.com/build/assets/star-Bm6t10PJ.png"> <strong>I don’t think he’d be so cruel as to comment on the weight or guilt me into losing it more quickly</strong> - now thats a good thing!
In which case, he was a twat for doing it.
...and to add the favourite MN comment - LTB (light hearted though)

YADNBU. I'd be really upset for the lying and lack of regard for your feelings. I hate having my photo taken without warning but DP respects this.

I don't care if people know what I look like in real life. When I go out i've done my hair, put on decent clothes not scaggy pjs, used concealer. I also don't spend much time frozen midway through a facial expression at the perfect moment to look like Jabba the Hutt.

i do hate my picture taken bad enough when im posing let alone a natural one-people still share my pic but he shouldnt have lied

He lied, so YANBU. I’d call him out on that as the most important thing.

The main issue for me is he feels that what he thinks is important is more valid than you and thinks he can dismiss your views.