To not want to meet up with family or friends !

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I’m not a highly sociable person so lockdown hasn’t been terrible for me. I understand it’s harder for some people.

My point is now they’ve announced we can meet up with 6 people outside whilst social distancing. I really don’t want to. There’s one friend I know who is being cautious but other than that my friends and family have been socialising for weeks anyway.

My mums been mixing with other households with no social distancing - friends that she wouldn’t bleddy see before lockdown and my in laws have been out and about all the time now always social distancing not really taking it seriously so now things have relaxed slightly how are they gonna behave now?!

My mums rang me saying she wants to come around and see the kids!! I’ve told her no as she’s came into close contact with a lot of people and I don’t want her potentially bringing it to us. She also goes to the shops every single day. We are low risk but you can’t know for sure how your body will react with the virus. My children have sen I feel like I need to keep them, myself and partner safe.

Aibu to say no unless she stops socialising with multiple houses with no social distancing ? She’s had people in her house and everything. I don’t know who her friends have been socialising with. Surely this is how it spreads? Families, meeting families who are meeting families and friends.

I think I’ve offended her but surely I’m not being unreasonable to keep them safe. They have sen. They aren’t going back to school because neither us or the school know how they will be able to social distance!

This is the exact reason I’ve actually quite enjoyed lockdown. Not having to please other people and I’ve been able to put my little family first!

No, I don’t think YABU. I’m not particular looking forward to seeing certain family members. Don’t get me wrong I can’t wait to see some, but others not so much.

It's not compulsory to socialise so of course you don't have to. But there will always be a danger of contracting COVID19 until there is a vaccine, and that could be months or years away. What will you do until then?

It's never unreasonable to make your own decisions for your own reasons. If you are uncomfortable then you must do what you think is best for you.

However, having said that, this virus isn't going away. At some point you will need to mix with others, even if that's socially distanced.

It is something that will be allowed, not something you have to do.
If you don't want to then don't.

It's perfectly reasonable to want to protect your kids - if you don't, who will? I think it's fair to ask her to practise social distancing for 2 weeks before having a meet up. Or meet in a park with no physical contact? Just emphasise it's about keeping the kids safe.

I agree 100%!!! I have not missed my parents rocking up unannounced at any time and expecting to stay for ages at all 😂 They have also not been social distancing, they have been having barbecues and all sorts. They haven't asked to come and see the kids yet but they will be getting told no when they do ask.

YANBU

Some people haven't given a flying fuck regarding this. Parties, bbqs, groups in each others houses, the list goes on.

One of my sils is like your mam, she's being working, bbqs every weekend, different people in her house for parties. She invited us for a bbq today, we declined, I've a disabled dd and a dh on a RA injection. She constantly turns up at our house, I talk out the window. She just facetimed us telling us how unsociable we are, there must be about 15 people in her garden. I clicked off and ask not answering again.

You do what is right for you and your kids. I've a pain in my face with people. I knew when things started relaxing people would be trying to meet up with everyone and forgetting all the people they've just been around.

If you're children have health issues you need to protect them. With my dd if she got a whiff of it she'd die.

YANBU.

I know Dh family are about to start harping on about coming over and they will guilt him into it which will cause us to argue.

I’m 26 weeks pregnant, obese and about to have a section in a August, my third one which they have found lots of complications for which mean I’ll need a GA. I’m not seeing anyone until after that (and longer because of the baby), I’m not prepared to add in another risk factor and Dd won’t be going and mixing either (Ds is 17 and is throughly behind me).

I’m waiting for the inevitable arguments.

I've LOVED lockdown for the isolation element. I've had a blissful few months without overbearing parents breathing down my neck. I'm pregnant, and I would have had no end of surprise visits and bump ambushes. I'm in no hurry for things to go back to normal. I've had pangs of missing my friends, but they're only on the end of the phone.

Thanks all. I know we don’t have to. I’d quite happily stay isolated for weeks yet. I don’t like my home comforts. But my main concern is how this will cause problems with family.

Every weekend prior to lockdown, my mum and my in laws would expect a visit and they both live in different areas. It got a bit much and felt I was putting others before my own family and it’s been fabulous to spend some time just the 4 of us not having to please everyone!