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Sick with worry. Putting vulnerable family member at risk.

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A82971151 · 28/05/2020 14:17

Hi all, basically my grandma is nearing 80 and although she hasn’t got any underlying health issues per say I do worry about her catching coronavirus due to her age and she’s been hospitalised with chest infections on two occasions in the past. I would break my heart if she caught it.

Since lockdown my mum and the rest of the family haven’t come into close contact with my grandma. To keep her safe. She’s had shopping delivered at the door, waving from the front gate and social distancing chats in her front garden. Until this week where all of a sudden people have seemed to become too relaxed.

I do get it’s really hard. Grandma has only recently became a widow.

I do feel people have become more relaxed. My mum and grandma have been out shopping together this week in the same car, my mums in her house, my grans been at hers.

If my mum had been social distancing herself I’d think whatever.

But my dad, my brother and sisters that live at home are still working through this so risk catching and bringing it back to the house. I also know that my mum has been socialising with others. Not just the odd person - Multiple households.

I’m worried sick grandma will get ill. I know it’s her choice but I doubt my mums actually told her she’s not actually social distancing.

Aibu to have words with either my mum or my grandma? I am so worried!

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AnnaBanana333 · 28/05/2020 15:05

I'm sorry. Flowers I live with my disabled mum who's very vulnerable and I'm so afraid of infecting her, even though I haven't left the house since April except to get food.

I don't think you can say anything that will make a difference, though. Presumably your grandma knows the risks and she's decided she would rather take them than continue isolating, and your mum must agree.

Maybe just reiterate to your grandma that you're happy to bring her shopping and come for a distant chat whenever she likes, so she knows she has other options?

LouiseTrees · 28/05/2020 15:11

Tell your grandma so that she can make her own decisions about she wants to do. Ask her not to tell your mum it was you that told her.

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