MIL wants DC to visit her mother

[Flower34]

MILs mother is 90. She lives 2 doors from
MIL. Now that the rules have been relaxed a bit, she wants DC to spend a day this weekend at hers to cheer her up. I said nothing yet, but I think it’s too early given her age (and medical conditions). DH agreed but MIL very pushy. Aibu to think we should wait a few more weeks ?

Surely a visit 2m apart won't do any harm if you all harm if you all have been following lockdown,what do you think will happen?

The rules have been relaxed but this is not within the rules. You can meet 1 other person, 2m apart in a public place

We have been visiting her all through. Spent time on her front garden etc. MIL wants the kids INSIDE the house now - for the whole day

Has your husband not seen his grandmother ?

Is her mother very rich? Is she trying to kill her off?

Oh nobody is allowed inside homes are they? I wouldn't either not for the day a couple of hours in the garden would be my limit.

Well if you've broken the rules throughout lockdown then only u can decide what to do next as clearly the guidelines don't bother your family.

Standing in a front garden isn't breaking the rules

It is if it's a group of people (grandparent, parents, grandkids) You're allowed to meet 1 other person, 2m away (in a public place which I know many think includes gardens)

I would stick to just visiting in the garden. Going in the house increases the risk especially as it is an elderly person you are visiting.

Just stick to the guidelines.

Not inside i wouldnt, garden definitely.

The bigger issue than rules is your DHs mum trying to pressure you both when you've both declined. Is she normally like that or is this just lockdown exacerbating? You need to set boundaries.

To clarify, we = DH and I. All through the lockdown we’ve been visiting GM for delivering groceries, meds etc. We spent time with GM chatting from the front garden, while she was inside by the window. She saw the children after months just a few days ago, that too from a distance (waved and kisses from the car). My kids are close to her, esp the eldest. She is missing them I know!
Mil isn’t trying to kill her or anything, lol. At times she can be very pushy!

For a moment there I read "DC" in your heading as Dominic Cummings. Go on, I'm sure he'd be happy to visit your GMIL, he could check out his eyesight again.

I would try and placate Mil with a garden visit say you want things to go back to normal of course but atm the "rules" are outside only.