To think SIL is rubbing it in?!

[Oxmama]

SIL is pregnant. Husband has developed some COVID symptoms and so whilst he is awaiting test results, she has gone 1.5hrs away to isolate in her parents annexe. Thankfully they’re only mild symptoms but I think they’re right to be cautious and so am on board with her going to isolate there.

Since she arrived she has been flooding the family WhatsApp with photos of her hanging out with her parents. I should say that they are always socially distancing & outside, but things like having drinks & meals in the garden together and having a film night whilst she sits at the patio doors etc

AIBU to feel like she is rubbing it in a bit?! I would LOVE to be able to see my parents and am really missing them. I don’t begrudge her seeing her parents at all, but I think she could be a little more sensitive to the fact that all of us are missing being able to see loved ones, so having multiple reminders each day that we can’t do that is hard. I think she should scale back the photos but AIBU?

@lyralalala - genuine question - how do you self isolate in the same house with only one bathroom? I had the same initial thought as you but reasoned that it would be hard for her to stay protected in the same house?

With one bathroom, you wipe down surfaces after use...don't touch doorknobs with you bare hands etc.
DD had CV and self isolated very well. I took meals up to her, as she was in her room. Its possible...but can be challenging.

@oxymama I believe there's advice on how to do that in amongst the guidelines. I think it's the guidance on how to clean the bathroom after use that's the main thing.

To be clear - I don't think going to another property is a heinous crime as long as they go there, without stopping, and isolate.

Going away because you've potentially been in touch with it, then taking chances hanging out together with another household who've had no contact with it, is the stupidity I have an issue with.

Yes you’re being petty. I doubt she’s thinking about your feelings when she posts photos of herself with HER parents (and why should she - who would be bothered by this?) She’s hanging out at her parents house because her husband is ill and she’s pregnant - would you rather swap places with her?

My dsis has been seeing my dm every other day as she lives around the corner and has been taking food. Its nice seeing the photos of them on WhatsApp and I’m grateful that my sis is the one looking after her - I live too far away. Wouldn’t occur to me to be annoyed or jealous.

Maybe stop looking at WhatsApp?

Just post pics of yourself drinking wine and eating all the food she loves but can't have, BINGO!

I think that YABU. Would you swap places with her?? She is pregnant, away from her husband who is at home, alone, and could potentially become seriously ill. And she also has to wait out the 14 period to be sure she won't be comes ill herself.
I would imagine that is pretty worrying & a bit lonely for her.

She is posting a few pics with her parents that you don't love...but you are in your own home with your symptom free husband with only the more general CV worries all of us so-far healthy ones have. Don't look at the pics & don't begrudge

Honestly just grow up and stop begrudging people spending time with loved ones just because you can't spend time with (some) of yours.

I will NEVER understand this attitude.

Your SIL is not rubbing it in. She obviously gives people far more credit for being mature adults than they deserve to get.