To feel a bit sad? Make me feel better about this... Please!

[Lonelylockdown22]

I know this is nothing compared to what thousands of people are going through currently and I am fully aware there is a global pandemic going on but I feel SO single. It literally feels like everyone I know is getting married, moving in together, having a baby, trying for a baby etc etc etc
I'm starting to feel like it might just never happen for me. I've always wanted children and I feel so sad that it might just never happen 😔

27

Hey this lock down makes many people who are happily single feel down and lonely.
So I totally get that you'd feel this way if this isn't what you want...
So ask yourself... What are you going to do when allowed out to play again 🤣 so meet lots of people and increase your chances of meeting someone lovely..

OMG OP!!!! 27?????

My life improved immeasurably and unexpectedly at the age of 35 in the relationship department. Thereafter followed the best years of my life!!

You have an 8 year advantage OP!!!

Moral of story - sometimes very good unexpected things can happen!

Cripes I had a dc at 43!!
Op write a bucket list of things to get done first!

Oh love! I do understand and I felt exactly as you do now when I was in my late 20s (minus the lockdown aspect). If it helps, I met my wonderful husband in my early 30s and we now have a toddler. 27 is genuinely still young these days.

I so would have said the same at that age, then by 30 I was married and pregnant!

Hi OP. I understand, my best friend was literally you, and I remember these discussions so well and feeling awful for her, as it was something she wanted so badly and had started feeling hopeless. She's 30 now and blissfully married and planning a baby! It's a cliche but until you DO meet 'the one', you will feel totally single - and then you'll meet them and all of a sudden you won't be! At 27 there is LOTS of time!

FWIW I had my first baby late twenties and was EASILY the youngest in my NCT group and all the baby classes, so you won't be unusual in settling down 'later' (which I'm sure is the norm now!).

I got married at 27, divorced at 30. Now at 31 life has never been better. Some of my single friends felt like you when I was getting married - but those marriages at 27/8/9 are no guarantee of a happily ever after.

You've got bags of time my love - go out and do the things you enjoy and it will all be OK.

I felt exactly like that at 27. Met my husband. He's now my ex husband. He turned out to be a shit (understatement). Friends who met their husbands even later than me ended up pretty happy. None divorced yet unlike me. So... It will happen for you I'm sure but don't be in too much of a rush. Don't settle. Find someone worth the wait. At 27 you have oodles of time, I promise.

I've been there and I would love to be 27 again with a 39 years olds head! You are so young, think about all the other things you could do with your life and concentrate on that please. Marriage and children take so much commitment and your priorities have to change. Enjoy your freedom and just being able to make yourself your priority. I'm not trying to diminish how you feel I have been there I'm speaking from experience. This current situation has us all feeling quite lonely and introspective relationships arent the be all and end all, trust me.

Thanks so much everyone. I already feel better. There's no one I can really talk to about this in real life. Fingers crossed for the future and that I meet my Mr. Right

I'm a couple of years older that you OP and feel exactly the same.

Ahhh I'm really sorry you're struggling. I'm not single but I struggle with anxiety and I think lockdown just really highlights difficult things in our lives.

Oh gosh you have years! Years of fun, laughter, romance, adventure, late night dinners with friends, weekends away, holidays.....

Please please please do not wish away those fabulous, selfish, amazing years you’ve got ahead of you. Believe me when I say you’ll look back when you’ve got young kids and you can’t get 5 Minutes to brush your hair let alone enjoy a pampering shower and face mask, and remember the time that all you had to worry about was yourself. Enjoy it, nourish yourself, be selfish and do all the things you won’t easily be able to once marriage and babies come along.

It’ll happen, I met my amazing DP in my mid 30s and babies in my late 30s. Very very glad I waited for the right one.

Oh and if all of your friends are coupled up then join meet up and get out and meet interesting women to socialise with - I mean when the world returns to normal of course

I hope that post didn’t come across patronising - it wasn’t intended to.

I also had massive anxiety of being in my 30s with no babies and no Mr Right - I do wish someone had told me to enjoy and indulge myself in those single years, I didn’t realise how much I’d miss them!

I didn’t meet my lovely husband until I was 28. Been married 25 years. It’ll happen when you least expect it. The important thing is don’t settle.

I know how you feel, although I met DP at 24, we didn't have a baby until much later. In my late 20s/early 30s a lot of my friends started having babies and although I wasn't ready at the time, it felt like there was a gaping hole in my relationships with my closest friends and that they were all moving on without me and that was awful. It'll happen in your own time. I've seen people panic and rush things and the outcome isn't pretty. I've also had friends who've met their DP in their 30s and things have moved faster because they're older and know what they want.

Make
sure you're happy in and with yourself. Your ability to be happy independently is a huge investment. I'm now in my late 30s and my DP is terminally ill. I thought we had everything sewn up - how wrong was I? There's also been the first divorce amongst my friends, someone who met their ex around the same age I met DP, so meeting someone isn't always the end of the story.