To ask if you can overcome a bad social experience?

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I'm a middle aged lady who lied about my ex partner dying to my work colleagues. I don't know if my colleagues saw though this lie but I was bullied afterwards in work. I admit these lies were very wrong and I said them because of low self esteem. No excuse - I'm old enough to know better. No one said "your ex didn't really die, you're a liar" - but they would try and humiliate me in other ways - saying publicly "you're too soft" etc - this kind of thing - or asking me a question then deliberately embarrassing me when I gave the answer. I've left that place of work now but I still have anger issues.
My question is - can you overcome a bad social experience like this? Even though it was a workplace - the nature of the problem was 'social' if you see what I mean.

There was another very similar thread to this a few days ago. There might be helpful advice on that if you can find it.

It sounds like something you need counselling for to be honest - both to explore why you felt the need to tell such a serious lie, and about how to develop healthier social relationships going forward.

I’m not saying it was remotely right for your colleagues to try and humiliate you, but I can also see why they would have felt manipulated and deceived if they knew you had lied to them. If you can get to the root of the self esteem issues with a decent therapist it will set you in good stead going forwards.

Thanks zscaler

Why did you lie?

low self esteem and the anger issues surrounding that

That seems like a very drastic lie to come out of low-self esteem issues. I'd second the recommendation for counselling - if you've still got anger issues you're going to find it hard to move on from this.