Men eat dark chocolate and toffee. Gifts for Men.

[MulberryPeony]

Just seen some Father’s Day adverts and it’s always the same. Men eat dark chocolate and toffee meanwhile women eat white chocolate and strawberries covered in chocolate for Mother’s Day. Where do such ideas come from? I prefer dark chocolate (and love toffees) and DH prefers white chocolate so we tend to swap at Christmas. AIBU or should I start calling myself Dave and grow my lockdown ‘tash?

I know what you mean, DH loves strawberry flavours whereas I love dark “manly” chocolates

Christmas is the same. Perfume, undies, make up and hairstyling appliances for women. Some women may want those things but I'd love some power tools.

Cards have all got lager or golf or a spade or footballs on.

Dh hates both I he is into Turkish delights and fudge I on the other hand love "manly" sweeties

You know what I hate that Is aimed at women/mums bloody bath bombs and candles gifts for faffery more like

My DH prefers lady drinks and chocolates, I’m all about cheese and a bottle of spirits. Just call me Malcolm.

Oh yes candles - my dad likes candles so often but him on for Father’s Day. Sometimes he gets orchids or [ladies] gin too because they are his favourite.

I like cheese too Malcom, even the manly blue stuff, but you can have the spirits

Oh my dad likes a candle but he won't admit it

My mum informed me a few weeks ago that my dad loves a candle. "He walks through the house lighting them in every room, then goes and sits in the garden. He knows if I blow one out though, he'll come in and be all aggrieved that I've snubbed his choice of scent..."
I was going to get him one for Father's Day actually, I had forgotten that.

My other half does prefer dark chocolate and toffee. Makes things easy for me.

My big, tattoo covered, walks like thug, owns a rottie (who is as soft as a lapdog) mate loves scented candles. I buy him one for his birthday every year. He buys me the darkest chocolate he can find.

@georgialondon Are there any ‘manly’ presents he doesn’t much care for? Speciality ale, chilli plants?

It can be just as interesting in restaurants. I have sticky toffee pudding, DH has a chocolate confection topped by a chocolate heart and a mass of spun sugar - waiter says "whose is the

Remember the Yorkie advert 'its not for girls' manly size bites of chocolate

Also choc brazil nuts for men at Christmas

At least Yorkie were poking fun at the issue though. Love the raisin ones personally.

I like dark chocolate and toffee and hate while chocolate, I like chocolate Brazil nuts, real ale and chilli plants.

@MulberryPeony No! And his favourite stocking filler every year is hankies! He's only 40. A dream to buy for as he Ioves all that stuff and is disappointed if he doesn't get it.

‘Men’s gifts’ are always cheap novelty gadgets. Stuff that gets shoved in a cupboard never to be seen again. There must be hundreds of light up beer glasses, chilli sauce gift sets and beard grooming kits just waiting to be opened.

My husband really likes salads and often orders them in restaurants. Every single time they get put down in front of me.

I like to drink beer and my DH likes gin, I can’t stand gin. When we used to go out I would always order a pint and he would have a G&T. Without fail the person behind the bar would go to hand the pint to DH.

My dad loves getting flowers, but wouldn't be too pleased at white choc, unless it was the inside of a kinder egg.

Cards have all got lager or golf or a spade or footballs on.

All my life I've had cards like that, I hate every one of those things.

A lot of people think your whole personality is determined by your genitals. A big chunk of other men just start talking to me about football and then look confused when I tell them the only footballer I've heard of is Andy Murray.

When we used to go out I would always order a pint and he would have a G&T. Without fail the person behind the bar would go to hand the pint to DH.

When I was out with mates in my youth a round would be 11 pints of Fosters and one Cointreau and Lemonade. Half of them hated Fosters and several tried and preferred my drink but wouldn't change because beer is What Men Drink.

Sexism and gender politics at play and I wish more people refused to play along. As I say to the kids- do you need to use a penis to play with that (if a toy) then it’s a toy. Not a boys toy as there are no such things.
On holiday our server quickly realised the half pint of lager went to my husband and the pint to me- but automatically it was the other way round at first. He’s the same re salads when out too, like a PPs husband.
I honestly think if people just stopped the gendered crap there wouldn’t be so much issue around people thinking they are the “wrong” gender... It’s horrible to feel you are somehow wrong for your choices and having such strong cultural and social gender “norms” (that are not actually normal but are constructs!) is making people from young children Upwards doubt themselves.