MIL commenting on baby name

[MamiBets]

AIBU.... We're due our second daughter soon, and upon hearing that we are expecting another girl, my MIL commented that she hopes we would chose a name easy to pronounce this time.

She made some insensitive comments when we were choosing our first daughters name too. Her name is not even difficult to pronounce, yes it's Welsh (live in Wales and speak Welsh) but it is a 'say it as it's spelt' sort of name and nowhere to go wrong.

I felt upset that it was the first thing she thought to say, rather than anything nice !!

AIBU or should I say something if she says something similar again?

I would tell her you are using the name Sue jut so she can manage it, or something even easier :)

"Weirdly only you seem to have trouble pronouncing it MIL - maybe you should see a speech therapist they can help you with your problem? No need to be embarrassed it's never too late to improve your skill set" 😁

None of her business, she had her choice naming your OH, this is you and your OHs choice now. Her making snidey comments is only going to ensure its a topic she doesn't have discussed around her.

I have 4. MIL came to visit the day after I'd had our (#3&4) twins (she played golf so couldn't visit day 1) and the first thing she said was, 'Right, what names have you two been lumbered with then?'

Mytime that's actually quite funny to read not for you at the time
Please say you told her they were Frogmella and Spudulike just to wind her up?

If you're Welsh and living in Wales then I'd hope everyone around you would be able to pronounce Welsh names!

@Limpetlike is your name pronounced 'Keeva'?
I'm Welsh, and love a lot of the Celtic names but the current 'spell it how you like' trend fries my brain. There are some weird - to my mind- spellings of names around now; how did Zowie appear? A friend was a teacher and had a lovely little girl start school introduced by her parents as Wyvernie - spelling Yvonne - for the record Wyvernie sounds lovely

Call her what you (and your partner) want

Out of interest what are the names?
I wish we'd used some more traditional Welsh names - but dh didn't like any of the ones I suggested

It's regional, @Reluctantbettlynch -- in some parts of Ireland, it's generally 'Keeva' (more Keevuh, really, as the second syllable is a schwa), but in mine it's usually 'Kweeva'. I'm a Kweeva.

And I agree there are problems with unwitting mispronunciations by parents naming their children -- I used to work with a very brilliant Welsh woman with an Irish name, which she both spelled and pronounced wrong. As it's a common name, and I regularly email several other people called it, my email autocorrect used to correct it to the correctly-spelled version, and I would have to go back and alter it to her version.

And it's not just a variant version, more that this sequence of letters in Irish simply does not make those sounds.

@Limpetlike thanks 😊 lovely name with either pronunciation. With my accent keeva/keevuh sound the same! Lol

When we told my mum the name we had chosen if our baby was a boy she said “you can’t call him that”. Fast forward a few months we had a son and we called him that name. A few years later my mum did say that she was sorry and that ds really suited his name.

My MIL actually shuddered when I told her my DD's name, when I asked her what was wrong she screwed her face up and told me it was too old fashioned. Bitch.

My FIL likes to make comments on my youngests name, he also made a point of mispronouncing my family members name despite being corrected several hundred times . It is hugely irritating and rude but best to just ignore it. I would have loved to name our children with more traditional Welsh names but unfortunately my partner didn't like any of the names that I did.

So, Caiomhe can be pronounced two ways but you've never met anyone who didn't immediately know how you pronounce it...ok, sure...

So, Caiomhe can be pronounced two ways but you've never met anyone who didn't immediately know how you pronounce it...ok, sure.

Well, I'm not that poster but I'm a Saoirse who's lived in a lot of countries, including the UK. What I assume she means is something like my own experience. Non-Irish people are unlikely to know how to pronounce it first time, but you tell them, and they then know how to pronounce it -- for most of us, this isn't some kind of horrifying predicament that lays an axe to the roots of our identity.

Did you tell her that name? If not, don’t. Otherwise ignore her.

*the name, I meant.

One of my DC was supposed to be an agreed set of names - my French family name/Biblical name/his family basic name. DH registered said DC in reverse order since he thought FFN was poncey and difficult to pronounce.

I should have LTB.

Seriously, don't take it to heart. Ignore and ignore. BUT can anyone link to a Gaelic/Gallic/Welsh pronunciation guide?

What is it with MILs and their rudeness over their GCs names?!

When we had DD2 and we told MIL we'd chosen to name her Darcey, she asked "Aren't you worried people will call her arsey-Darcey?"... I'd never heard her use any even very mild swear words, so was a bit shocked she thought it was appropriate in relation to my hours old DD!

Mine said "I hate Anabelle, she was queen of Spain and she killed all the Jews"
She also wore white to my wedding
Laughed at a reading we were going to have

Don't tell her anything