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Next Door Neighbours

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MyCatTibby · 24/05/2020 21:01

We live in a semi detached. Our neighbours are a couple who I would say are in their thirties. Last Monday morning I was woken up at around 4:45am by severe coughing from the girl next door. This carried on until Friday when an ambulance turned up and took her away to hospital. She has Covid-19. I know her boyfriend should now be isolating himself for two weeks. However he went out yesterday in his car and twice today. We’ve noticed he’s brought bags back which indicate he could have been shopping although they were not supermarket bags so can’t be sure about that, he could have been visiting parents which is equally wrong I know. Yesterday his parents visited for about three hours. I’m totally shocked. IABU if I report this?

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highmarkingsnowbile · 24/05/2020 21:51

So you report him instead of putting a note through his door with your phone no. and saying how sorry you are about his girlfriend and if you can get in his shopping or however you can help you're sitting around judging and policing him.

I'm so glad I don't live around such curtain-twitching, Stasi wannabe people.

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MyCatTibby · 24/05/2020 21:51

@Ianthanum thank you that’s what I will do.

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understandmenow · 24/05/2020 21:51

Hw do you know she has CV? I mean actually know, not just she is in her 30s and has a cough. So you have decided !

Rabblemum · 24/05/2020 21:52

Why not put a note under the door and offer to do some shopping for him, maybe he doesn’t have anyone else who can help him. Be part of the solution, not a snitch.

Queenoftheashes · 24/05/2020 21:53

Has the government asked people to report their neighbours for rule breaking?

understandmenow · 24/05/2020 21:53

Sorry just seen "you asked home over the fence", still you look after yourself and they look after themselves.

Simple!

Mammaaof · 24/05/2020 21:54

Keep your bloody nose out!

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MyCatTibby · 24/05/2020 21:55

@highmarkingsnowbile @understandmenow I really wish people would read the thread before commenting. I know for a fact she has Covid and I offered help.

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highmarkingsnowbile · 24/05/2020 21:56

Really no trouble - and maybe you'll be able to return the favour if we have to self-isolate later."

FFS. In other words, 'I'm watching you, will continue watching you and here's this passive aggressive threat and pretext of helping which of course, comes with strings attached.'

Nice. Said no one ever.

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MyCatTibby · 24/05/2020 21:56

@Rabblemum I offered help! I said I had spare groceries and also I had a delivery this week if he wanted me to add anything on for him.

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Rabblemum · 24/05/2020 21:59

Apologies, he’s just an idiot then...

understandmenow · 24/05/2020 22:00

highmarkingsnowbile @understandmenow I really wish people would read the thread before commenting. I know for a fact she has Covid and I offered help.

Follow your own advice, I posted an "apology" prior to this comment!

YAB totally U!

And sound like hard fucking work and a nosy neighbour as well!

My idea of hell as a neighbour.

highmarkingsnowbile · 24/05/2020 22:00

I've read the thread. Leave him alone. You're not 'concerned' you're judgy and watching him. You're spying on him.

DownToTheSeaAgain · 24/05/2020 22:03

In these Staziesque circumstances I always wonder what the OP hopes to gain from reporting. This coronavirus and lockdown has really brought out the absolute worst in some people. Offer help, carry on offering help if you want but it is not your place to pass judgement.

matchboxtwentyunwell · 24/05/2020 22:03

Government guidelines are suggesting that when schools open, everyone, including the teacher, in a school's group of 8-16 children has to self-isolate for 14 DAYS if ONE member of that group shows symptoms of Covid. All of them.

So why the husband of a woman who has it and lives with her doesn't feel he has to not expose other people is fucking stupid. I don't blame OP at all for wondering what the hell he's thinking.

understandmenow · 24/05/2020 22:03

@highmarkingsnowbile agreed 💯 per cent, I'm "concerned" my fucking arise, I'm curtain twitching and judging more like!

vodkaredbullgirl · 24/05/2020 22:04

1 min you say report, then the next offer help.

EggysMom · 24/05/2020 22:07

I'm sure your neighbour has acted legally and with integrity in a difficult situation where may be a safeguarding issue Grin Grin Grin

Custardcreamies101 · 24/05/2020 22:07

f he's not had covid, actions like his put other people's lives at risk.

Exactly! How many peoples lives are lost because of stupid actions. He shouldn’t be going anywhere at all! Try to see if you can speak to him over the fence to voice your concerns. The fact that an ambulance came round for someone in their thirties is very worrying! Now if he passed that to an elderly or vulnerable person it might cause death.

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MyCatTibby · 24/05/2020 22:09

@vodkaredbl I offered help first. I’m not going to report that’s for certain.

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MyCatTibby · 24/05/2020 22:11

@Custardcreamies101 that’s my concern!! He’s going out and may pass it on to someone vulnerable

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SoberCurious · 24/05/2020 22:11

Stop calling OP a snitch! She totally has every right to be worried!.

Put a note through the door offering to shop whilst he isolates op.

Jeeze people. Be more KIND.

Clearthinking · 24/05/2020 22:12

Agree with custard!!! He's been out when should have been isolating for 14 days SHE has got covid! This is how the virus spreads !!!

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MyCatTibby · 24/05/2020 22:14

@understandmenow sorry!

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vodkaredbullgirl · 24/05/2020 22:16

Just hope you neighbour is okay after this.