To tell DH that I have been smoking or just leave it? AIBU

[TheGoldenNugget]

DH and I took a break last summer, but we got back together last month. He told during this time he felt really down, and smoked weed to cope with the situation, being away from us. Funny thing is I've also started smoking cigarettes since he moved out for the same reasons, being sad and stressed. I stopped smoking 10 years ago, just before meeting him. He’s never seen me smoke but know I used to smoke in the past. My sister has told me to just leave it and not tell him if I’m planning to stop, but it’s really weighing heavy on me and I feel bad since he’s told me his ‘secret’ and I feel like I should come clean about mine. I don’t know what to do 🤷‍♀️

Just stop smoking as of now?

Agreed. Stop smoking now and don’t say anything.

What you did is not illegal. What he did is. (PS Not going down rabbit home of debating whether it should be)

If you’re still smoking you should tell him. I wouldn’t be in a relationship with a smoker.

If it's weighing on you this much then you should tell him. His disapproval will also help you quit.

Definitely tell him. If you're feeling guilty about not telling him then it means that you know that you should based on the parameters of your own relationship. If you're quitting now anyway then it won't matter and will probably hold you accountable and make it easier to quit.

He'll know surely? It smells pretty obvious. I'd just tell him and quit, what he did was worse so I'm sure he's hardly in a position to judge.

What difference will it make? Is the weed smoker going to judge the cigarette smoker for smoking? If you want to tell him, tell him. No point stressing about it

Why wouldn't you tell him? I don't understand.

I dont understand what the issue is? Why would you hide such a mundane thing?! If you want the relationship to work I’d start with honesty and trust. Otherwise what’s the point in trying again?