Should I call the police?

[ChiaWatermelon]

Right,

EXH has had DS(8) since Thursday, the agreement was that he would return him yesterday (Saturday) now he has decided that he wants to keep him for a few more days.

He is the kind of man that you can never be nice to, because he always take advantage. We are in the middle of covid 19 and I thought I was doing the right thing by letting DS spend time with him for a few days, I have been worried since I let him go because I don’t know what kind of people EXH has got my son around, and to be honest with you he hasn’t good legal track record neither.

I really don’t know what to do, do you think I’m over exaggerating by wanting to call the police, to go over to EXH and DS and return him home to me.

Thanks

@borntohula Thank you.
@Yankathebear Fraud & Hacking which has made him a target before so he now has the “wrong type and dangerous people” around him for his own safety.

I didn’t feel comfortable at all sharing that online but hopefully you’ll understand why I’m worried.

@ChiaWatermelon
Try to stay calm and see how things progress.
Can you FaceTime him?
I would still ring your local
Children's services tho get it logged then if there is any incidents you're on their radar.
It might make you feel better x

You can apply for a court order now if you wish?

Do you think he won't return him tomorrow?

@Hellokitty82

Yes I can FaceTime he, he took his iPad with him.

@RandomMess If he is not returned tomorrow, I will go and get him myself. But I know that is going to cause problems because DS(8) favours dad over me.

Kindly, don't waste time doing this. This is not a police matter.

If dad has PR there is no crime so therefore nothing police can do. No court order makes it even harder.

I'd suggest that if ds is not returned to you then you go and collect him yourself from the door.

It often looks like the child favours the other parents, but it is often that they are actually secure in their relationship with you and know you will love them no matter what but work harder on their relationship with the other person and want to be with them to try and earn their love or have it proved that the other parent loves them as they are not so secure in that knowledge. Don't take it personally but try and flip it to see that you have been doing a good job x

@Juanmorebeer Yes, that’s what I intend to do tomorrow.

@ToelessPobble Thanks 🙂

Sorry I feel for you. If I were you I'd be stopping all overnight stays until your ex can be trusted to bring him back when he is supposed to. If he doesn't like that then tell him to take you to court.

@pumpkinbump

Thanks, I don’t usually let him stay overnight. I just had a little bit of faith that EXH would stick to the agreement.

My 18 year old thinks I’m exaggerating 😣

Sorry to be a pain, should I go and get him now or leave it tomorrow morning?

I just want him home.

Me again! (I must be coming across as deranged)

Just wanted to let you all know, that I went and got DS and he is now hone with me.

Thanks for all the advice given earlier, its really appreciated.

Glad he is home safe Chia, I hope there wasn't any drama when you collected him.

Is he ok?

Glad to hear it OP.

@LevoMental

No drama until we got back into the car has to listen to DS(8) tell me that he doesn’t like me, and he wish I wasn’t his mum.

EXH didn’t question why I had come, even though I could see he was annoyed, he told DS to get his things ready. He abused me over text for a few hours, but I don’t care he can eff off!!

I hope your DS calms down soon. As a PP said they often act out with the people they are most secure with.

As for your ex, tell him to get to fuck. He shouldn't be speaking to you at all if he can't be civil. I would keep all his messages as proof of his abusive nature.

I'm glad he is home with you💐

I hope his dad isn't the kind of person who would say horrible shit about you to your DS. Also hope you're feeling calmer and not taking anything personally.

@borntohula

If I am honest, I really don’t know he could be telling my son anything he wants, DS(18) doesn’t speak to him anymore.