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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Aaaaaarrrrgggggghhhhhh!

86 replies

B0bbin · 23/05/2020 12:53

Anyone else? I just needed to let that out!

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slipperywhensparticus · 23/05/2020 15:32

My ex has decided after 14 weeks of minimal caring (a text every 2 weeks or more) he is now seeing the children again he wants to see them tomorrow I need to provide the children and a football he is taking them for "exercise" the kids are looking forward to it I'm not looking forward to the fallout from it and I feel so.....unloved by there reaction (not the right word) it feels like I've done the hard work got them through (potentially) the illness got them through lockdown he gets to swoop in and say tell me everytime your mom has lost her shit so I can call her a bad parent (not been often but he will blow it all up SHE SHOUTED BECAUSE YOU TALKED TO HER ON THE TOILET I'm having a "word" with her I'm not happy about THAT) it just seems such unnecessary bollocks I have to deal with (and yup I did shout I'm not giving you vbucks while I'm having a shit son stop BADGERING me IT CAN WAIT)

so yes

AAAAAAAAAÀRRRRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH

Msmcc1212 · 23/05/2020 15:32

YANBU. Me too!

BrowncoatWaffles · 23/05/2020 15:37

I am mentally counting down the hour until I can give DC dinner and start the end of day routine.

All I want is silence, a bag of Doritos and a glass of wine for dinner. I'm done.

Mrsorganmorgan · 23/05/2020 15:42

My husband (I refuse to use D) has had a stroke and can't speak at all. This does not stop him from trying to supervise me. He watches me all the time, and I cannot understand 99% of what he says. He refuses to use soap to wash his hands, just flicks them under the tap, went out last week to give stuff to a rag and bone man and he is generally horrible (that is another thread). I wish he would go and live with his mother because they are like peas in a pod. AAAAAAAAAAAArgh

Smithtylater · 23/05/2020 15:43

Does anyone else just have nooooooooo motivation to do anything. I have stuff to do around the house but cannot be arsed at all...feel tired and exhausted all the time but i have not done anything.

BelievinForAMiracle · 23/05/2020 15:44

@CustardySergeant 🤣🤣🤣

SlimBig · 23/05/2020 15:47

@B0bbin I posted the same thing on Monday and had a 40% YABU!!!! Can you believe it?!?!
Aaaaaaargh all you want, it’s totally reasonable.

RainRainGoAway2020 · 23/05/2020 15:47

Can I join in? I’m very miserable and annoyed today as we should be off on a much anticipated holiday. It will no doubt be months before we even get the money refunded,just to add insult to injury. My lazy arse DH is hungover so sleeping on the sofa all day like a bloody teenager. My kids refuse to entertain themselves and follow me around the house constantly.

Whilst I do know I’m lucky to have a family I can’t help but thinking how much more enjoyable lockdown would have been in my younger single days. My old flatmate and I would have loved all this time to watch Sex and The City and drink wine.

PasserbyEffect · 23/05/2020 15:51

Mrsorganmorgan, you sound like you could be my Mum (as in, she's in the same predicament re: NDH)
Flowers and Wine to you

AcrossthePond55 · 23/05/2020 15:57

DH was supposed to be going away for 3 days (acceptable journey under our not-UK rules) and now he's not going.

I was going to be TOTALLY ALONE FOR 3 WHOLE DAYS! And now I'm not!!! Aaaaarrrrrgggghhhhh!!!!

Singlebutmarried · 23/05/2020 16:01

Another one here.

I was asked today what’s wrong

What’s wrong? Said I with the steam starting to build.

What’s wrong.

You’ve not been working all week, yes you’ve homeschooled til lunchtime every day, but then you did off out on your bastard bike. (Yes ‘d’H’s ‘hobby’ is cycling) for op to five hours at a bloody time leaving my to supervise the child while I’m still working and generally get everything done around the house.

Apparently I can go and have some time to myself if I want.

But when? I cried.

I get up, walk the dogs, sort breakfast for me and child (h is still asleep at this point), I then start work, yet still field all the questions on where the schoolwork is to be found (we have access to it all. Both of us).

I have to referee the pair of them, resolve that case if the missing (insert any random object here).

I then take the child to do the horse mid afternoon ion. Usually to find she’s had no lunch because H hasn’t thought to do it.

So we’re delayed because I can’t expect her to do the horses on an empty stomach.

I then get beck. De horse and start dinner. Walk the dogs again, weed/water the veg patches. Do whatever cleaning is needed/washing.

In between all this I bake as well.

I finally flop down and get ‘why are you so tired’

Cos I’m a fucking skivvy that’s why and I fucking hate my life at the moment.

Ahhhhh

That’s loads better

Mrsorganmorgan · 23/05/2020 16:02

PasserbyEffect Thank you so much. I am having a glass of wine at the moment, because I don't care about much any more. It is not the caring that I mind, but the day he has his stroke I found out he was having an affair with a work colleague. He is an accomplished liar.

I should have left him, but felt numb at the time and for a few years after. I suppose I drifted into it and I am really old. I hope your Mum is doing alright.

MusicMother · 23/05/2020 16:03

I agree. Can't stop crying. Business is failing, heard yesterday we've lost our pre-school place for August, can't see a way forward.

B0bbin · 23/05/2020 16:04

Such good responses! Thank you allWine

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Mrsorganmorgan · 23/05/2020 16:06

I often go out into the garden and have a silent scream.

Mrsorganmorgan · 23/05/2020 16:10

They say that after a stroke the person's personality changes.

His has not he is still an arrogant knobhead who thinks he knows
everything (I am really enjoying this thread - such an outlet for my frustration).

kgal3542 · 23/05/2020 16:17

My "housemate" asked me yesterday "What's an aerial engineer?" after seeing it on the side of a van, or as he would put it "I seen him" Wink
This "aerial engineer" was up a ladder on someone's roof, fixing an aerial !

The same "housemate" can not understand why hens lay eggs, if there hasn't been a cockerel in attendance !

Aarrgghh !!!!

SporadicNamechange · 23/05/2020 16:21

🙋🏻‍♀️ me too.

Luckily DH has just taken the DSC out. Because I was ready to murder him. Although he shouldn’t have taken them out at all because it meant (as usual) going back on the consequences he’d outlined to try to get them to behave. And that, in a nutshell, is the problem.

So it’s a no-win situation here. I’m pleased they’re no longer in the house but it will just prolong all the issues with their behaviour. And all because:
• he can’t be bothered dealing with the consequences he’s threatened (yes, it’s boring and they’re a pain in the arse complaining they’re bored - but that’s parenting);
• he’s so desperate to always be the ‘good guy’ that he starts offering special bloody treats to children who are behaving dreadfully; and
• (worst of all) he just cannot stop favoriting DSD over DSS, so the fact that (at 6) she was marginally less awful (but actually more awful because she totally understands what she’s doing) than her 3 year old brother seems to merit her getting loads of fun while he’s punished. Honestly, he was trying to find an old console of his to give her as a special treat after she’d been a total shit.

In part the favouritism is because DSD looks like DH whereas DSS looks like his mother (and DH intensely dislikes his ex). So he automatically identifies with DSD and just doesn’t want to upset her. He totally doesn’t mind upsetting DSS though, no least because he looks most like his mum when he throws a strop. But it’s so unfair on
DSS who should, if anything, get the benefit of the doubt more often because he’s only 3 and doesn’t always understand.

The DSC are here all week. I think there will be lots of silent screaming from me for the duration. Because this Disney dad/lazy dad shit is an ongoing theme, and it’s impossible to get him to see that it’s awful.

4Naan · 23/05/2020 16:27

I'm always at my worst on Saturdays too. Think I'm getting continuously more irritated with absolutely everybody in my life. Have been fantasising about walking away from my marriage, even though DH is great and does more than his fair share of childcare etc. I kind of know IABU but too irritated to care!

MrsMozartMkII · 23/05/2020 16:45

have absolutely nothing to whinge about, other than not seeing DDs for so bloody long, and yet I'm in a right old grump and done pretty much buggerall today.

I blame the wind.

And the fact that, like pretty much everyone else, I Can't Go Somewhere (Anywhere!) Just Because I Want To!

And breathe. And remind self of all the good stuff. And go turn up the heating and make a cup of tea. And do something (only because if I don't this headache won't heck off - I think it's frustration with myself).

And to add to it, I posted ^ on the wrong thread...

Hollyhobbi · 23/05/2020 16:46

Yes. Me also. And weirdly I have more pain today from two chronic health conditions I have. Also have an online counselling session at 7 which I don't want to do at all.

GabsAlot · 23/05/2020 16:46

i'll join in

waiting for a parcel all day update says its been delvired er no it hasnt cant get through to anyone to find out where theyve apprently delivered to-now its bank holiday i doubt i'll get any joy till tuesday

beesbeesbee · 23/05/2020 16:47

Musicmother Flowers

MaybeMaybeNotJ · 23/05/2020 16:57

Yep. Fed up of being bounced on and giving toys voices and being called every three seconds.

I want to be alone and do nothing but then just feel guilty.
And the house never gets clean or tidy.

Arghhhh

SunshineCake · 23/05/2020 17:18

Yep, forgot about workers. Sorry.

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