AIBU to have a fucking moan at you all?

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I'm so fucking fed up. I have given up today and my SDC are downstairs playing games for the rest of the day whilst I'm in bed eating chocolate feeling sorry for myself.

Does anyone else feel like they can't keep going like this for much longer before losing what's left of their sanity?

I'm not working but I am studying for a degree I was doing before lockdown started. I'm also looking after DHs children as both parents are keyworkers and so I thought I'd offer thinking it'd be fine yes I'm naive as fuck

I know a lot of you are going through this too but I just need to moan for a second about school work, arguing children never wanting to do anything but play video games even in the beautiful sun, feeling like I can't sit down to do my work for 5 minutes without hearing my name being shouted or having to break up an argument because one of them had more crisps in their packet than the other or they breathed too close to the other one.

I'm slowly losing the will and today I've just fucked it all off, my motivation has gone, it's been zapped, they've done no schoolwork, I've done no work either, we've not even been outside. I've made them food and now I'm going to have a nap whilst they entertain themselves because I seriously can't be arsed anymore.

I know tomorrow I'll have to get back on the horse and get going again but right now I'm done

Moan away, OP. It's the same here too.

Thank goodness it's not just me then! I feel a lot less guilty about leaving them to it today. My main aim for today was to keep them fed and watered and bugger all else!

They are still arguing in seperate rooms because they are playing a multiplayer game and apparently one keeps trying to steal the others car?

Lord give me strength. I haven't cried yet @Wellyouknowbest but it's only a matter of time!

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It's hard enough when they're yours and you've had the cute,cuddly baby years to bank

I’m exactly the same 12,9 and 5 it’s driving me insane they are so bored everything you said I can relate too.

I don't know why you are moaning at us - moan away to your heart's content if it helps but you will find plenty of posters on here feeling just as you do. They will join in with you!

No platitudes from me, everyone has to deal with it in their own way. I will say don't worry about the kids not appreciating the good weather and preferring screens, you can't force them to do what they don't want.

No matter how much you love them, this is a very difficult time.

Do you have a paddling pool - even if they say they're too old/big for one, they'll play in it! Plus you can too!!

Do NOT feel bad about today. Anyone wants to whinge they can feel free to take over!

Definitely takeaway/easy dinner,wine,kids early night!

Don't put pressure on yourself to be some kind of saint.

you will find plenty of posters on here feeling just as you do. They will join in with you!

Hey the more the merrier (although maybe merry isn't the best word ).

Honestly I just needed to write it down and rant to someone hearing how a lot of you are feeling similar has helped ease the guilt enormously so I'm thankful!

No paddling pool but maybe I could look into getting one tomorrow, if there are any left that is.

I just spent tons of money online on stuff I don't need and I've eaten toast, biscuits, pancakes and crisps. I'm totally fine with it.

My hot tip for you op is devide and conquer.

No more than one child at a time allowed in any room. That will sort the squabbling out.

Before you give snacks say that if any arguing ensues regarding portion size, said snack will be removed immediately.

Teach then how to make a soft drink and find your biscuits, then start shouting them to 'fetch me a drink pls'.

Then buy two massive water guns, Chuck them in the harden with a large bucket of water for refills and tell them to fight out their differences

Sorted.

OP I totally feel for you and huge hug. Last week I had three days of all the kids bickering and fighting, running around like lunatics, getting cranky etc. The schoolwork was a slog with 2 every single day refusing to do work, moaning, the lot. Today and yesterday, very randomly, they took heed of my if you get done early you're done message (that I've been saying for eight weeks now) and went inside and didn't go near screen etc, just started playing etc. I swear I nearly fell over and started looking for hidden cameras. At 2 o clock I played chasing with them then I told them they could play the X box/watch tv/ whatever. Probably tomorrow we'll be back to fishing over homework screens etc but I'm absolutely projecting one of these days onto you for tomorrow. Hope you get a break

Multi player is still in the same virtual room op - I have three sons and multi player minecraft games ended in tears and cries of "He just set fire to my pigs".

No multiplayer. In fact, can't they go outside and fashion guns out of bits and pieces or build a camp?

You deserve some peace op. They are being naughty boys and need to start learning how to self-entertain. You will be teaching them a valuable life skill

"He just set fire to my pigs"

Are you living in my house?! 😂😂 We've had this actual argument too.

Someone mentioned dividing snacks up as well. Honestly I've taken to counting sweets out before just in case they realise one has 2 more Starbursts than the other.

It's funny really what children think is a huge deal isn't it

But yes maybe multiplayer is a no go from now on you're right! Unless they can play nicely together

Totally feel this today - you are so not alone!!!

My DC are working (slooooowly) but the work is just stacking up. They should be able to work independently (y10 and 7) but need constant badgering which is exhausting (DH and I are both WFH ft) - plus I feel like a failure that they aren’t more capable of just getting on with it and motivating themselves (where have I gone wrong!!!??!!). They were arguing about who had the most minutes of computer game time earlier which made me loose the will to live and I had a small banshee moment with them.

Just feel a bit soul crushingly blah, meh and waaaaaaahhhhh at the moment. (And I’ve had to buy some new bigger size clothing as quarantine has made my usual clothes shrink!!!! 🧁🍮🍪🍫🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷)

It sounds like you're putting too much pressure on yourself to entertain them. Mine of the same age have been messing around in the garden on their own and have decided to make some stone tools (we've been watching Ray Mears). Happy for ages while I was doing housework. They need to be bored sometimes. I find plenty of exercise reduces arguing.

You could try my mother's technique - she'd just whack the two warring parties into the same room, and tell them they couldn't come out until they were friends again.

And then go to the other end of the house. There may have been cocktails involved.

DS (6) has done no school work today and absolute no guilt on my part.
This is hard.
Hes played in the garden all day and talked talked talked and talked some more
Mummy may have a had a couple of glasses of wine in the sunshine and now we are going to have a bbq.
Currently sat outside having some peace while he watches whatever he likes on YouTube.
Not everyday looks like this but the last two (and some on weeks previous to this) have done

There's only so much you can do
Dont be too hard on yourself

And I’ve had to buy some new bigger size clothing as quarantine has made my usual clothes shrink!!!! 🧁🍮🍪🍫🍷🍷🍷🍷

Hmmm funny... The same has happened to me 🤔