To think an almost 5yo can dress themselves

[Buzzmingo]

Just that, really.

Every day is the same pantomime- repeated requests to get dressed followed by tantrum, sometimes shouting (both them and I)

They are physically capable but act like the aren’t.

Dressed self from around 2 and suddenly struggles with socks in particular.

I’m at the end of my rope with this particular daily battle.

What do I do?!

Mine love breakfast, so there is no cereal until clothes on (Or tv,)

With 5yo DD things that have worked are:

Babying her sometimes with good humour

Pretending to believe she has forgotten how to get dressed and then being comically "shocked" at each item she can put on

Being a monster that will eat her if she doesn't get dressed

Contrary to others saying don't worry, I tend to as far as possible get them to do certain things such as brush teeth, get dressed, vitamins, bedtime etc because I think that if they do it every day, after a while they are more likely to go with it.

It isn't half wearing though!

Another granny here! Nearly 12-yr old is the same every day with school uniform. His mum has to drop him off by a certain time or she's late for work - I'm sure he sees it as a control issue cos he actually doesn't like school much. They talk about it the night before, she tells him the consequences (loss of phone etc) if it doesn't happen in the morning and then it's the same merry-go-round - it makes her ill thinking about it. They are both relieved to be at home at the moment!

DD2 tried this. She we left for school with her in her pyjamas. A very short drive later she was dressed in arrival at school.

So in your case I'd keep going out with him in one sock or whatever. If you have a DP I'd leave your son behind. Too bad.

My DS is 5 next month. Perfectly physically capable of getting himself fully dressed and we had a routine pre lockdown. It still involved some cajoling, but pjs at breakfast to avoid mess and then he went and got dressed and we did teeth etc and then allowed to watch tv before we had to leave for school. That seemed to work, as after a few times of no tv cos he was too slow, he obviously figured it was easier to just get on with it.

Nowadays it takes him forever to get dressed as we have nowhere to be and I just roll with it, although it does drive me mad. I mostly go with they have to be dressed to get their morning snack, around 9.30/10am, but obviously we’ve had days where we’re all in pjs all day.

But if it’s a serious problem for you then maybe get it set in routine as if you were leaving the house? Perhaps race against a timer or someone else in the house getting dressed? A morning outside activity that my DS loves is watering and checking on the plants by himself and he can’t do that if he’s not dressed.

We have TV after both breakfast and dressing have been accomplished. Concentrates the mind wonderfully I find.

At the moment I generally don't care if they get dressed or not.

Normal times I set a routine of up and dressed before going downstairs for breakfast, no TV or electronics before school or until after breakfast otherwise it just seemed to be an impossible task. I can't explain why eating and then getting dressed and out took a lot longer than getting dressed straight out of bed. Just a strange mystery of the universe.

Some children just can't be rushed, so if time is a factor you need to find more from somewhere.