AIBU to ask him to back away from busy places with DD?

[Teapot888]

Good morning. DD stays at her dad's every other weekend. As soon as the government allowed, he was straight off down to the busy seafront (with DD and his parents whom he lives with) where social distancing was attempted but in his own words "people could've tried harder".

In contrast, DD and I have been staying away from popular places, picking scenic spots for walks and lovely picnics. The weather is exactly the same.

Asking him to back out of places that are overly busy, beach included, has been met with nothing but sarcasm. He'll do what he wants if it's allowed. It's bothered me, I must admit. AIBU to have asked him to avoid busy places with DD? Because we really need to be on the same page with this. Thanks x

You are not being unreasonable by asking, but don't be surprised if (as he seems to be) you get totally ignored.

All you can do is model the correct behaviour when your daughter is with you.

If he is anything like my ex he wil be above The Rules. And certainly wouldn't be taking any notice of my thoughts..
Can you send dd with a mask and hand gel?

How old is your daughter and are you in a group classed as vulnerable?

You’ll get loads of posters telling you that you’re over reacting, OP because kids rarely get seriously ill with it. You’ll also get people telling you that he’s following the rules, but I agree with you. If even he recognises that people aren’t keeping to the guidelines, then it’s up to him to protect her. He just wants to do what he wants and doesn’t want to take responsibility, but will be weeping and looking for sympathy if his parents end up catching it. Unfortunately there’s nothing you can do and the more you push, the more he’ll push back. All you can do is enjoy the time with your child and let him get on with it. Unless you’ve an underlying condition, his parents are likely to pay the price, while you just fell a bit unwell.

He has his own hand gel that he uses for her, I don't think he has a mask for her though (me either actually) That said, I'm following a pattern I saw on The One Show and attempting to make some. DD is 4 but not in a vulnerable group. It's not just about us though, is it?