One year olds birthday?

[Stripeytopgirl]

I know this is going to sound ridiculous, but I feel really guilt that my DD almost 1 only has 3 Presents for her up coming birthday.

I know she has no idea so this is my issue!! She has a sister 2 years older so they already have an abundance of toys between them & really they’re not into much at 1, except maybe car keys and bank cards! (& anything they shouldn’t play with?!)

So AIBU to feel a bit guilty? Her sister definitely had a lot more but she was #1 and in hindsight we went over board. I just can’t think of anything worth buying that would get sufficient interest?!

😂 this is the kind of thing I’d feel bad about too as I always feel guilty for DC2. If you wanted to get something else maybe something like a nicer sippy cup with a pattern, some cute kids tupperware, wrap up some clothes she would need soon anyway. At least half of my kids birthday and Christmas presents aren’t toys but stuff they need around that time so they get it gift wrapped 🙌🏼

@napqueen. Yes! Poor second borns... already feel like they’ve drawn the short straw coming after the perfect number 1 😁 but now to Sacrifice birthday Gifts!!

Yes, I did order a bamboo Dinner plate. I will be wrapping it 🙈 So that’s 4... 😂

YABVU. Like you've stated, she has no idea it's her birthday. 3 presents is absolutely fine. The world needs less spoilt children anyway.

@NotEverythingIsBlackandWhite you’re right, the guilt stems from DD1 having much more than DD2... this must be a Common thing though? As you already have toys by the time #2 comes along...

I agree with Not
If you want to be seen to be being equal, then put some money in a savings account for her.
that's what we did when ours were little. They very much appreciated it when they were older and had a concept of what they could buy with that money.

A friend had twins
For the 1st 2 years Christmas and birthday they just wrapped up toys they already had. They were much more interested in the paper than the toys.

Genius I thought

@BackforGood very good idea & what we have asked family/friends to do. I’m being silly I know, 3 lovely presents is fine & lots of attention and fun on the day.

I have got her a cookie jar shape sorter, a push along wooden bunny, some baby puzzles & a set of toy metal keys.

So actually I lied, she has 4!

@SunflowerSeedsForever genius & evil all at once

I do wish I could be more like that though & focus less on Buying stuff being a way of showing love!

I was the same and felt guilty but they do get the benefit of playing with all their siblings toys so actually have access to a much wider range of things to play with than their sibling did at that age. For instance we got our eldest a slide when she was 4, the youngest has been playing with it since she was 18 months so although it was given to the eldest it was really a shared toy if that makes sense

I wish i had stuck to a couple of gifts and put the rest into savings.
As mine have got older we do memories instead-so a trip out (realise this isn't an option at the mo).
The gifts are for our own benefit they have no idea. Enjoy her special day