Names have been changed obviously. I'll try to keep it short.
W met N at work years ago and became friends. They started a relationship and were together for two years but N was very non committal. They saw each other every other weekend. They lived quite far apart.
W then discovered that N had been seeing someone else for the entire two years. Seeing her on the alternate weekends he claimed to be working. W also found that N had signed up to swingers sites (apparently not to do anything, just to watch).
It all blew up and N told W that he loved the other woman and never loved her. They parted ways but had to see each other at work now and then. The other woman also worked there.
After a while W and N became friends again and resumed a relationship slowly. The affairs became common knowledge at work and he decided to leave to protect his reputation.
N moved up country and W helped him. W Then moved too. When it came to sign for the house they were buying, N snuck to solicitors by himself to sign for the house. Much fuss was made by W.
N made W aware that he didn't know if he wanted marriage and kids (like he had told her to reel her back into the relationship) which left W feeling lost for some time.
Then all of a sudden they were married when they went abroad. W had given N an ultimatum that they would be over if not.
After getting married N was very non committal again about having children.
Then all of a sudden, W is pregnant.
obviously there is a lot lore detail to the story.
N had to travel a lot for work and has always announced last minuted that he is going.
I am concerned for my friend. I don't think people change and I'm worried that after she has had the baby things will get bad again, he will be able to travel more alone. The thought of her being shat on again doesn't bear thinking about.
Can people like this change?