My MIL is very critical of my husband. After many years DH finally started realising this when she started on me and our dd. We haven't seen them since February and then lock down happened hallelujah. However I know he adores his father and brothers so our weekly contact will resume whenever it's safe too when the government allows it.
I just don't know how to handle these situations, Dh tells me to be the bigger person and let it flow through one ear and out the other but by my nature it's hard! I tend to dwell on things.
For example.
My Dh will say something about dd it could be anything and she will reply "yes it's not special most kids do that"
If he says anything nice about me it's "no it's not it's because she's (whatever she's decided)
It's like he can't say anything positive about us without her basically shutting him down and saying it.
Her daughters kids are obviously golden children and compares my dd (2) to "oh she can't do what She does" (her other grand daughter)
A recent example
She asked me how toilet training is going.. I replied it's great thanks, dd just wears pull ups at night time.. and she replied back "oh, dd daughters was out of nappies full stop by 1.5" (which is a blantant lie when DSIL told me only a few weeks ago she's having trouble with toilet training her dd (3)
So the thought of ever even seeing her again fills me with dread.
Does anyone know if I'm being unreasonable to grey rock her constantly or is there an alternative?