Non sleeping twins

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I am a mum of 11 month old twins and one will not sleep at night unless they are on me or in bed with me, they will go to bed at first as we put him to bed asleep, but once he wakes up he will not sleep in his cot, he used to sleep through the night but hasn't for about 7 weeks, we are all still in one room so I can't let him cry as he will wake up his brother who wakes up at 5am so I am not getting much sleep, they don't sleep much in the day and rarely at the same time, does anyone have any advice before I go insane

Me and my husband took shifts every night with our twins so that we each got at least half a night sleep every night. He was working full time but i found looking after 2 babies all day like a full time job too.

Lots of sympathy! Mine are 18 mths and mostly OK at sleeping but I think this has massively improved with how much exercise they do now as they love walking and running about, even just in the garden.
Putting them to bed awake really helped. Also down at 7pm and then nap in the day we got really strict about and that made a massive difference. Drink of water available helped too.
Also making the bed a good place for all of us to sleep really helped - so one cries and then comes straight in with us and then we're all back to sleep within 5 minutes. One friend of mine slept in a sleeping bag on the double bed so she wasnt worried about the duvet, only one pillow etc.

I could have written this post. My twins rarely sleep for more than 2 hours at a time. They are 10 months and hate their cots. It is exhausting.

We have had hit and miss success, last night I had them and twin 1 was up at 23:15, 1:30 & 3:00 but I got him back to sleep pretty quick and put him back in his cot so no co sleeping last night, the night before their dad had them and they both slept until 6am typical. We were using a lava lamp for a night light on the windowsill which meant the blinds were shut but not the blackout curtains, this is probably why twin 2 was waking up so early. If they don't improve before we get their room sorted I like the idea of me in a sleeping bag that would make me worry less, we will have to move the bed against the wall though. I do worry they get cold at night as they have never slept under their blankets even when tiny they would kick them off in minutes, I don't even bother putting them on the bed anymore, I haven't used a sleeping bag on them as twin 1 stands up in his cot, I understand it frustrates them if they can't stand up because of the sleeping bag, has anyone else used one after their baby is standing?

Both of mine are in sleeping bags and can stand up in them.

There was a program on this week, sorry can’t remember channel
It was the lady with dark hair, who I think is pregnant? She trains you how to cope with kids that don’t sleep etc

This week it was twins, the mum was run ragged they were about 18 mths I think
Bedtime was a nightmare, eating, playing etc etc
In the end they were sleeping, without dummies!!! The dummy was waking them up, looking for it ???
Put them in cot
Sat outside, they were crying
After 2/3 mins, put them back down. Walk out
Numerous times, this happened
After 20 mins they fell asleep 💤

It took few nights, but she cracked it and other things too.

Please try and find it, we have sky tv but can’t remember programme or channel
It may help you, or at least open your eyes to things

When my ds was only months old, health visit told me to leave him to cry and sit outside for few mins, go in settle him and walk out. It worked really did

Just find program in tv mag
It’s on ch W it’s called three day nanny

My 2 year old is still in a sleeping bag - anytime we try to switch him to a duvet he kicks it off then wakes loads cos he’s cold

3 year old twins of my own. :)

Been there OP! Neither of ours were ever awful, luckily, but we did have phases of OMG... We tried different things, nothing really worked terribly well, but then the awful phases passed.

They do pass, I promise!

Thanks for the name of the tv programme, I couldn't find anything in google. I have downloaded and will try to watch it over the weekend, my friend brought me some sleeping bags for Christmas so we are going to give it a go tonight, it's dads turn tonight so if it all goes wrong it's his problem 😂😂 let's see what happens when we try to put him in it in an hour 🤦🏻‍♀️

If anyone has been following this for help with their own baby or babies, putting him in a sleeping bag, white noise and blackout curtains has done the trick, unfortunately we are still up at an ungodly hour 4:45 this morning with twin 2, twin 1 is now sleeping through the night, usual morning starts about 5:15-5:30 so an improvement, we are still in one room and putting them to bed asleep but eventually we will get them into their own room and put them to bed awake. Thanks for everyone's advice xx

Cosleep!! If you follow the safe sleep 7 it's safe. Lullaby trust has information on how to do it safely.