To think the mum should be doing more to control her child

[LowFat]

DD (4) just had a first swimming lesson - she missed last week because she had a cold. But anyway, got htere and some children were already in the pool from the mum n tot session before hand.

One little girl was a real little fish, she kept going under water and was having a great time.

But when the lesson started she kept doing her own thing, and going under. Now there are 2 instructors in the water with 12 children. But this little one had almost constant attention on her, and not ebcause she was swimming well, but because she was'nt listening and was going under and generally distracting all the others.

AIBU to feel a bit annoyed with the girls mum for not telling her to pay attention. We have all payed the same for the lessons, but while her child was being disruptive the teachers had to stop what they were doing and spend their time telling her to come back and behave etc.

i think the only thing you can do in this situation is talk to the instructors if you feel it's an on-going issue that is stopping your dd get the full benefit from her lessons. They will have to listen to you on that I would think.

Or putting my insanely optimistic head on, this little girl could actually benefit your dd more than anything else; role modelling her confidence in the water and showing that it's ok to go under, be adventurous etc?!

You know HG, when I first saw this LG going underwater etc, I thought exactly what you said, 'DD will see that and want to try it, or think it looks fun etc'

But when she just kept doing it I soon hanged my mind to just thinkning she was a bit of a nusance.

o lowfat (hysterical name btw!) i had a similar swim lessons situation last week. first lesson back after summer, whole new crowd of kids with my dd, who is a just on the brink of confident swimming, but needs a bit more practice, you know, hence the swimming lessons! Her lessons before the summer were lovely, the parents we used to all sit together and chat and the kids would be lovely and swim. so this week it was a whole new crowd of kids, and thats fine. But then the teacher started talking and about 5 of them, out of calss of 8, just kept talking, thorwing the flaots around, getting in and out, running around the edges of the pool etc, and so all the well behaved kids were just literally being ignored. It wasn't the teacher;s fault, there were clearly safety issues at stake and he had to crowd control, but all those kids parents were watching, and did bugger all. Two of them were next to me, backs to pool, talking at tops of voices about blagging some rave tickets from someone! eventually instructer shouted at one of the mums that her child had to leave the class now as too disruptive, and she started screaming threats of violence across the pool to her poor kid! 'you wait til we get home, you wait, you are gonna get beats black and blue boy' i thought, my god, no wonder the poor little thing is disruptive, if this is his role model! but still, i considered taking my dd out of the class over the whole thing. 2nd lesson was this week, they've all gone! all the little b*stards with no manners, not one of them showed up! i hope for dd's sake they stay away, but then i think, they probably need some kind of nice activity more than most, so its a shame really.

This little girl was just really excited about the water which I understand, and I would'nt want the mum to threaten her PSCMUM Poor children you witnessed!
But it would be nice to have a quiet word about her concentrating more.