Am I being ghosted?

[ShambalaHambala]

Sorry I know I already posted this in relationships, but might get more response here. Feeling a bit low and lonely... I've been seeing a guy for a 3 months or so (actually closer to 4) . Saw each other quite a lot (6/7 times) in the weeks before lockdown but have had to be a bit creative over the last few weeks with virtual dates. I messaged him on the 11th this month asking if he fancied going for a walk around our local city which is a ghost town, as we are allowed to now. He was up for it but said he had a few things to sort and a family issue out so may not message much in the next few days. Fair enough. I've looked on his social media and he's posting a lot, zoom meetings with friends, photos of him doing various things, a new play list he has made, lengthy debates on his posts with his friends etc. I don't know why but I just have a gut feeling that he may be phasing me out, or I may never hear from him again. I send him a message a couple of days ago just saying 'I hope you're okay' and nothing. At what point do I ask him what's going on or decide to call it a day? Or am I being paranoid here?

Sorry, it does sound as though he has moved on. I'd call it a day. Men show it if they are keen. And if they are not, then they're not worth wasting time on.
Start chatting to other people. An advantage of lockdown is that men on OLD have to actually talk to you before you can hook up with them, so you get to know what they are really like as people before getting involved.

I don't think I would bother with dating during lock down if this doesn't work out...

I think often you know on your gut when you are being phased out. Don’t message him again.
It’s so hard sometimes but the fact is that we don’t ignore people we like for days on end. It takes a few seconds to send a text.
I must have been hard meeting someone you like only for lockdown to happen. But just leave it. If you weren’t in a relationship (exclusive/had the talk) then he doesn’t really owe you an explanation. Sometimes things just fizzle out. Hope you feel OK.

I don't think you need to send another message tbh. His silence is telling you that you are not high on his list of priorities. I expect he'll come crawling out of the woodwork again in a few weeks wanting to rekindle things. I hope you keep your head high and ignore any future contact, or even better delete and block his number now, and thank heavens he showed his true character early on. You can do better than this. 🌻

Please don't message again!

It sounds as if you probably have been ghosted. I’m sorry.

I wouldn’t contact him again. You have messaged him twice with no response. If you contact him to say, is this it, have we split up etc., he will be too cowardly to respond. That is what this is all about: cowardice on his part.

Try not to take it personally. This isn’t your fault. Getting him to explain himself won’t make you feel any better. When we’re free to move again, find somebody new. Good luck.

Men definitely make how they feel about you clear. Don’t settle for less OP. Bin him.

Definitely not going to message again. He's the first person I trusted after coming out of an abusive relationship and I did think it was going somewhere. Maybe I was naive to be excited about it.

I’ve answered on your other post, but you’ve been told a lot to not contact him again. There’s nothing else we can say I don’t think? Were you hoping people would suggest you ask him what’s going on?

@greyishdays I just feel kinda down about it. And hearing from people on here helps as I am not good at talking about these things irl. Definitely not going to message him again and don't really want to

If he was interested, you would know and wouldn't be on here asking that question. If he has time for zoom meetings and not to give you a little text - he's just not that into you I'm afraid

Ffs :(

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