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AIBU to find "work socials" more draining and boring than work itself?

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SmoothAvocado · 16/05/2020 21:23

AIBU to find "work socials" more draining and boring than work itself?

I don't know if it's just me but it feels so forced and I can think of a million things I'd rather be doing with that time including:
1)Sleeping
2)Doing actual work
3)Watching TV
4)Phoning family
5)Mumsnet lol
6)Listening to music

That feeling of "when will this be over" has gotten slightly worse with the whole "zoom quiz" things they organise. I go to them to make an effort to be social but I often dread it.

I guess I'm probably not a super social person anyway generally.

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Lifeisgenerallyfun · 17/05/2020 07:40

YANBU if your work socials are anything like mine. The general gist of it goes

Boss sits there like a monarch expecting subjects to play sycophantic idiots. Makes big show of putting company credit card behind the bar,spends most of evening debating how much he can claim back. Eyes up female graduates like a wild animal stalking his prey.

Most of colleagues faithfully perform this role, laughing at shit jokes, repeating back the boss’s latest motivational crusade/money earner

Someone has too many and goes missing (this is generally the highlight of the evening) - usually foundin the wrong genders toilets being sick - put in a taxi

One of the graduates sits on boss’s lap attempting to kick start career. (Makes eyes are boss for foreseeable in the office) Another cops off with another graduate deemed most likely to succeed in his career.

The graduates who are any good sit at opposite end of table talking amongst themselves.

Normal people fake calls from other halves with claims of sick kids/early starts to see in-laws/ tea ready etc. Decamp to a less poncey pub.

Middle management looking for promotion buys boss a drink and takes advantage of the departing normal people to stab them in the back by telling tales reminiscent of the unpopular teachers pet at school. Their motto being why bring yourself up when you can put other people down.

Just because you have fallen into the same career doesn’t make you have to like all your colleagues.

CeibaTree · 17/05/2020 08:06

I loved socialising with colleagues in my 20s and early 30s, and some of them from those times are still great friends. I really like my current colleagues, but now I live out in zone 6 and have a family I just can't be bothered and want to get home asap, I go out with them if it's a special occasion and it is always fun, but I think I am just too old for regular after work drinks/or online socialising these days!

P999 · 17/05/2020 10:10

I like my workmates but socials are awful.

EBearhug · 17/05/2020 10:18

I like my colleagues and I am quite happy to go to the pub with most of them. If they decide to do something I am not interested in, I just don't go. Sometimes I can't go because I have other things on. Our online socialising only lasts about 15-30 minutes, it's more about keeping in touch and seeing how people are coping, and it's okay if you miss them. I do like a good online quiz, though.

redcarbluecar · 17/05/2020 10:21

I haven’t had any work socials on Zoom but I’ve been in a couple of quizzes I honestly thought would never end!

SmoothAvocado · 17/05/2020 13:32

Glad I'm not the only one who feels this way.

It's weird - it's like a mixture of anxiety and boredom for me at work socials. Weirdly I only like hanging out with people I really like (not just anyone for the sake of company) - perhaps because I sway between extreme introversion and extreme extraversion.

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