AIBU to not be especially sympathetic to my ex-wife?

[metalplaster]

Hello Mumsnetters,

My ex-wife (we are separated but, due to financial constraints, still live together with our 2 children (no, it's not easy!)), has broken lockdown rules and social distancing regularly over the last 6 weeks - visiting friends and acquaintances for drinking, drug and sex sessions.

She has reported this morning that she thinks she has Coronavirus. She 'has a sore throat and a bit of a cough'.

AIBU to not feel very sympathetic toward her - in fact a bit angry?

You what now?????

Contact social services and a solicitor and try and organise an occupation order to get her out of the house.

Drugs, drink, breaking lockdown, and now potentially infecting your children because if her lifestyle.

Tell her to find somewhere else to stay or you will

a. contact SS and ask their advice, which will possibly affect future child arrangement orders when you do eventually separate houses properly
b. see a solicitor about getting an occupation order

if she refuses, do both.

Get busy with a Soliciter and an excel spreadsheet ! This can’t continue

Also maybe have phone in silent mode after one of her rampages

It’s time to make plans to have her out of your life

Stop picking her up for starters

Am I the only one being paranoid when I think the MRAs have invaded MN again with their "gotcha" threads?

Are you both working? Can you or she afford to move out? How long has this been going on?

You think that not feeling especially sympathetic is the key issue in this mess?

Well GlummcGlummerson, they’re going to be rather disappointed, if that’s the case.

Goodness me.

One mention of drugs and everyone is shouting social services. Could be that she is smoking a joint away from the house when she’s meeting with others. Also social services won’t be interested in who she is sleeping with if it’s away from the children. If you are looking out and protecting the children, they don’t need to be involved.

You need a solicitor, not social services.

Stop picking her up.

@metalplaster
Who did she “report” to about her symptoms?

If this has been going on for six weeks, why are you suddenly concerned now?

Insists? She's in no position to insist anything.
She's holding you emotionally hostage.
I'd be cold stone furious - no room for sympathy.
Harden your heart. Remember you are setting an example. Get some legal advice. Give your children a little inexpensive treat. Maybe you all can make pancakes for dinner together?
And start creating a buffer between your DC and their DM.

Ugh.

Put the Uber app on her phone.

Hell mend her.

When she goes on a night out, just block her till she gets home...simple solution.

Well no but you should be more bothered about the risk she now is to your kids...kick the bitch out

She also insists I pick her up the morning after from whatever place she's ended up in.

And .... you're an idiot if you do it