To think 60 is young to pass away

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Someone I know of recently passed away age 60. I was talking to a friend who also knows this person and said how sad it was that she passed away so young. My friend said 60 wasn’t young at all to pass away. In my view anyone under annoy 75/80 is young to pass away.

I think its definitely young and sad, but maybe your friend has lost a friend or family member as a child or young adult - that does tend to skew your perspective somewhat.

I think it can depend on perspective. My nan was 72. That felt too young. She missed my wedding by 2 months.

But I have lost several friends in their 30s recently. Its put my nansa death in perspective.

If you alot of the people you have lost have been younger, 60 probably doesn't feel that young.

And tbh, my mum is 64. I cant imagine ever feeling like its ok.

Yes I definitely think so. My dad is 68 and still fighting fit working full time in a demanding senior role. I’d be shocked if he were to die in the near future but maybe I shouldn’t be judging by some of the replies

It's both much younger than the average and also a full life in the sense that you are old enough to have passed most milestones and lived through most stages. I would have felt robbed of time with someone if they died at 60 but also happy that they had lived so long.

GrumpyHoonMain

Yes she does but it is more to do with their lifestyle and eating habits. I don’t think my friend has ever had a vegetable in her life apart from sprouts with Christmas dinner.

Yes it is far too young for someone to pass away

I lost my Dad at 59 and my Mum passed away a few weeks ago aged 60. Neither of them were ‘old’ they both worked full time and were incredibly independent. I didn’t think of them as old, anyone who thinks differently obviously hasn’t been through this horrendous feeling of lost years with loved ones.

I suppose if the average person lives to 80 which is a good age, 60 is only three quarters of their life lived. So yes I would say it's definitely a premature age to die at.

Yes way too young! 60 is no age. I had a relative who passed away a few years ago at 52. Went to sleep one night and didn't wake up. Very sad, paid into retirement fund all his life and had no chance to enjoy it.

Many of my friends were dead by 25, my dad and boyfriend at 34. I consider those too young. Up to 70 still young to die, but after 45 (in my head anyway) it's no longer tragic unless they have young children. For me, and I do understand that it's very personal, once you get half way through life, you had a fair shot and I don't see it as tragic or shocking, just sad. Vast numbers of people I have loved have died though, which probably clouds my perception a bit.

My Dad was 97 and my Mum 85 when they died. 60 is young.

These days 60 is fairly young. The life expectancy average is around 81 these days. Your friend is a berk.

60 is young but I think depending on your experiences with death it changes your view.y best friend died at 32. My bio dad at 42. My sister at 42. I don't view 60 as particularly young, but definitely not old.

It's very young to die.

Form the ONS: Life expectancy at birth in the UK in 2016 to 2018 was 79.3 years for males and 82.9 years for females;

So yes 60 is way too young. It's in no way old and many people are still working full time beyond this. It's less than retirement age.

My FIL has recently died in his early 70s. Prior to his illness he was fit and well. Even early 70s is too young to go.

My nana died this week aged 92. Although it's very sad she's gone, she was old and it was to be expected at that age.

Of course 60 is fucking young! Is your friend about twenty and thinks anyone over 35 is 'past it' and anyone over 50 is basically good for nothing but shuffling about their house in slippers and having the TV on far too loud?

I'm 59 so may be a wee bit biased here...

Young but no crazily so, I'd say.

Agree it's framed by your experiences. I've lost multiple friends in their 20s and 30s, if someone had said 60 was too young in the first couple of years after my best friend died at 23 my thoughts wouldn't have been kind.

Our parents range from early 60s to mid 70s. All well and enjoying life. If they died, we'd be devastated but at the same time they've seen their kids become adults, get married, seen grandchildren born, travelled, enjoyed some retirement. All the big boxes have been ticked and their deaths wouldn't have that horrible feeling of a life not lived that you get with someone younger. But of course, they still have plenty to enjoy and to offer.

No she’s in her 40’s hence wise I was surprised at her reaction.her parents are in their 70’s.

How can it not be young, given that women have to work till they’re 66 or beyond. I’m sure when you’re friend is 60 she’ll think different.

Yes she does but it is more to do with their lifestyle and eating habits. I don’t think my friend has ever had a vegetable in her life apart from sprouts with Christmas dinner.

I thought so. I come from a South Asian background and know a lot of people like this. In some of my friends’ families 40-50 is the top of their life expectancy because of lifestyle factors. It’s such a shame but it seems like our friends are following in their families footsteps.

70 or under is young, in fact I’d say under 75 is fairly unusual.

Simon Cowell, Nigella Lawson and Hugh Grant are 60. They’re hardly old.

My mum died at 59 and I’m 46. 13 yrs to go and i cant think how ill feel.

I agree with @Widowodiw - growing up I lost much of my mums side of the family aged between 63-66 so I always felt that was normal and those people were old. I'm now older myself so can see for myself that actually they weren't old at all, and had all been robbed of time

I view anything under 75 as young to pass away, even under eighty these days. My parents and their friends are all early 70s and in good health, living full lives. Yes they have slowed down, but hard to think of them as elderly.

It is young! Your friend is wrong.

I’m 60 - your friend is an idiot.