Context to our situation - we have a 4ish month old daughter (our first) who hasn't met a lot of the wider family yet as I physically and mentally wasn't ready at the start of the year. My husband is one of those shielding as he has severe asthma though ironically it's the best controlled it's ever been and also has a cpap machine for his sleep apnoea, anyway we've been self isolating since the first week of March and I've only left the house twice to take baby for her 12 and 16 week jabs. Despite a miniscule chance of me catching the virus asymptomatically we self isolated within the house for 2 weeks each time just in case.
We're lucky to get online food deliveries, prescriptions, baby stuff etc and everything is cleaned with anti-bac. Yes, we'd LOVE to leave the house but we're trying to do our duty and stay at home.
Our parents back down south have started talking about when we come back down for a visit etc but the absolute earliest would be mid-June as per his letter, though seeing some stories that it might be more likely to be mid/late July. If we go down, would I be unreasonable to insist that they self isolate before we come down to ensure risk would be as low as possible? We'd be staying at my in-laws as they have space for us but MIL has a cavalier approach to lockdown and insists on popping out for wine at waitrose instead of adding to the weekly asda shop we set up for them. My parents are similar...
AIBU - they are their own people
ANBU - they should be able to cope with a couple of weeks.