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NDN troubles?

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MissMadEyeMoody · 15/05/2020 17:41

I know I'm just being a bit silly but maybe lockdown is getting to me and I'm other thinking.

Bit of background, NDN seems to have taken a massive dislike to me for no reason, never spoken to them other than a good morning/hello.

Anyway, few months ago the wife started making comments about me to her friend loud enough for me to hear as I would be getting kids up the stairs, (only one single file set of stairs to get up to the flats) judging my parenting and such. I ignore it, no point in saying anything, I'm not one for arguments.

Few weeks later, I'm getting ready to pop to shops with kids, they walk passed me and give me a very dirty look, I mean you'd think I'd had just walked into their flat and peed in their bed...

Comments to friend keep happening, and then we go on lockdown, couple weeks in, bit of nice weather so decide to have a BBQ. Let both NDN know the day before, from a distance, managed to catch them both outside at some point during day. So we have a nice BBQ, started around 4, all went outside kids played nicely, made sure weren't too loud. 5:30 comes and she shouts out to the husband that they need to move IMMEDIATELY as she hasn't been allowed outside ALL DAY and spends 10 minutes ranting as we're just casually eating a burger, was a tad awkward.

About 2 weeks ago we had 2 of our pushchairs outside by front door, we'd been on a little walk and just kept them outside for a while, later in evening, the husband knocks on the door and asks if we're having a party, I say no, why? And he responds 'you have 2 pushchairs outside, are you having a party?' again I say no, he doesn't seem at all convinced so after a while I tell him we went for a walk and used both pushchairs, he then storms off back to his.

I suppose my question is what the hell, like I have no idea what I've done to piss them off, we're quiet, we keep to ourselves but part of me thinks he was hoping to get us in trouble or something. I don't know, it's just weird and annoying, sorry its soo long.

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ohlookthisisjustdaftnow · 15/05/2020 18:10

They're just stressed out, like we all are. Stay your usual pleasant self, and I'm sure things will be fine.

dontdisturbmenow · 15/05/2020 18:18

Maybe you're not as quiet as you think you are.

MouthBreathingRage · 15/05/2020 18:49

Do you share a garden? Did you give a time for the BBQ, or had she been waiting around all day for you to have it? What comments was the neighbour making about you? It's really difficult to tell from one side if they're just off people, or if you may not be as quiet and conscientious as you think you may be.

MissMadEyeMoody · 15/05/2020 19:07

It's 4 flats and we all share a paved garden kind of thing, everyone has the width of their flat, if that makes sense.
We said we'd be having it late afternoon/evening, they have also had several BBQ's so I'm not sure why us having one for a couple hours was so bad for her.

Telling her friend that I'm 'stupid for leaving DD in pushchair at bottom of stairs', 'she clearly doesn't care about the kids safety', 'I'm always stuck behind HER', just little comments that I find to be unfair and mean. I'll literally run DS up the stairs and run back and take DD, who I can see at all times, I always offer if she wants to go up first which she doesn't, and I do be as quick as possible.

Kids aren't criers, and I don't allow shouting/screaming etc. (I am a fun mum I swear) the NDN are louder than us I swear, she's constantly screaming at the husband early hours of the morning, vacuuming at midnight, dogs barking, we don't complain although I was going to 101 a few nights ago just because it did sound quite aggressive.
If I'm honest, I just wish they would say what the issue is, I'm far too afraid to ask incase it makes things worse, the other 2 neighbours like us so I can't imagine I'm that bad

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ohlookthisisjustdaftnow · 15/05/2020 19:31

The issue is that they are arseholes who get annoyed about anything. Just keep your nose clean, try and avoid listening to what she says to other people about you (as the saying goes - eavesdroppers never hear anything good about themselves!), and stay friendly.

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