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AIBU?

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Is my neighbour BU?

12 replies

Orangesandbananas · 14/05/2020 18:50

The gardens are close together, mine is long and narrow, and between us and our neighbours on either side there's a short, waist height wall.

We own one side's wall, neighbour owns the other. His wall is leaning over into our garden, taking a few inches away, leaning in to our patio. He refuses to have the wall rebuilt as says it's a waste of money, even though we have offered to contribute half.

The leaning wall has recently become an issue as he's chopped down all the bushes that offered screening and privacy between the gardens. Obviously that's his right, but if the wall was straight we'd be able to put some fencing or trellis on top (with his permission) to create privacy.

Is he BU not rebuilding his leaning wall?

HIBU - he is being unreasonable.
HINBU - he is not being unreasonable.

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LouiseTrees · 14/05/2020 18:52

I think he is being unreasonable as leaning could equal dangerous but re the privacy thing could you not put some bamboo screening or something up just exactly in front of the wall

WitchQueenofDarkness · 14/05/2020 18:53

Is it unsafe? If not then HINBU

HopeYouStepOnALego · 14/05/2020 19:04

Make sure your NDN knows he is liable for the wall and you have recourse against him for any losses or damages if it collapses. That might focus his mind.

2bazookas · 14/05/2020 19:25

maybe the leaning wall will fall down in the night, then he'll have to clear it off your patio and put up something else

BMW6 · 14/05/2020 19:29

Make sure your NDN knows he is liable for the wall and you have recourse against him for any losses or damages if it collapses. That might focus his mind.

This, send him a letter and keep a copy. He's being a right twat

Orangesandbananas · 14/05/2020 19:29

2bazookas Grin

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strawberry2017 · 14/05/2020 19:31

I would make sure you have some pictures of how the wall leans etc just in case it does fall and he tries to claim you damaged it or in case it damages anything in your garden.

Chloemol · 14/05/2020 19:35

Just push it back towards his garden and put up fencing your side

Orangesandbananas · 14/05/2020 20:56

You can't really push the wall, it's solid and heavy, but leaning. Like the leaning tower of Pisa but a bit smaller

We can't put fencing up cause we have a raised bed built against one part of it

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Daphnise · 14/05/2020 22:21

Walls are very expensive- even if he only pays 50%.

It doesn't affect him or he'd remedy it.

As for letters or legal threats- go down that road at your peril- it would be a dispute you'd have to declare when you wanted to sell, as you might if he's careless in other matters as a neighbour.

Warpdrive · 14/05/2020 22:49

Is there a way you could persuade him that he could do with more privacy?

maddening · 14/05/2020 23:03

If you got a series of Jack's and planks then you could push it straight and then brace it on your side with stakes

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