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To think that if you have a car in the household and no impediment to learning , this is the time.

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disorganisedsecretsquirrel · 14/05/2020 18:36

So many posts on here over the years beginning.. 'I don't drive but DP/DH does, is this not the time to learn ?

There are amazing schemes through DLA/PIP for those who have Physical problems with pedals/gears. There are specialist instructors for those with Autism (my DSS has just passed with this scheme).

Surely with the current issues with public transport now is the time to learn. Learner insurance through the current insurer is not huge. You don't need an instructor just a willing driver , be it your DP/DH or a friend with enthusiasm to teach ?

OP posts:
PickAChew · 14/05/2020 20:56

Ignoring the fact that dh is actually working through the day and the kids can't be left at home alone, there's no fucking way I'd learn in our car. It's as long as a bloody bus.

Nofriendsclub · 14/05/2020 20:58

Good luck getting a provisional. They aren’t available

PamwichShilling · 14/05/2020 21:01

I was ready to sit my test but it got cancelled as did my lessons at the start of lockdown. Nobody can learn to drive at the moment! I've been given a new date in a couple of months for my test but lessons haven't started up again yet.
I don't really see the point of your post.
There's many reasons why people aren't able to drive.

Samtsirch · 14/05/2020 21:02

@disorganisedsecretsquirrel
How do you find a list of specialist driving instructors for people with autism?
This would be a godsend to some one I know .

RaspberryToupee · 14/05/2020 21:02

Aside from the essential journey thing - learning from relatives is really stressful and could put a lot of pressure on relationships. Which may already be under a lot more strain at the moment anyway. Plus, should you pass, you’re not driving frequently enough to build up your confidence. You would end up with a lot of people panicking as it got busier on the roads and they couldn’t deal with that level of traffic. I drove for the first time in 7 weeks today. I pulled on the road and hadn’t fully taken my hand break off and it took me at least 3 seconds of looking at the red light on my dashboard (and wondering why the car was sluggish) to realise.

Kahlua4me · 14/05/2020 21:14

One problem will be that you cannot currently apply for a provisional driving license as the dept is shut! We have recently applied for ds as he is 17 soon so will have to wait.....

NamesNamesSoManyNames · 14/05/2020 21:29
  1. One of us would kill the other
Actually that's the only point I need. If I could get an instructor (a proper one) then while the roads are quiet would be perfect. But alas.
CuppaZa · 14/05/2020 21:31

Is this a wind up? No way should anyone be sitting in a car with someone not in their household Confused

SirGawain · 14/05/2020 21:34

You don't need an instructor just a willing driver, be it your DP/DH or a friend with enthusiasm to teach ?
Not a good Idea the fact that you can do something yourself does not mean that you can teach it. For an inexperienced driver dual controls are vital.

BlackberryCane · 14/05/2020 21:38

Don't be a dope OP.

JanMeyer · 14/05/2020 21:48

There are specialist instructors for those with Autism (my DSS has just passed with this scheme).

These aren't everywhere, where i live there are no specialist instructors at all. Though I'm not sure what your point is anyway. Just because one autistic person can drive doesn't mean all of us can. And just because an autistic person can learn to drive doesn't mean a NT person can, or indeed that they want to.
Your post is quite frankly dumb from start to finish.

Stuckforthefourthtime · 14/05/2020 21:53

Yup, I'll just stick a terrified DH in the passenger seat, strap in the 4 small DCs (being sure to give a sick back to the carsick one) and have a relaxed lockdown lesson.

Disagree with people raging about 'essential journeys' as they've said you're allowed to drive to exercise or to the shops and for more experienced learners this is good practice. But for anyone newer, with kids, or needing more practice than just a few more confidence-boosting practice runs, this idea is mad.

lanthanum · 14/05/2020 22:52

There can't be many non-driving adults with a provisional licence, a household member they'd trust to teach them, and no children too young to be left at home alone.

I suspect there are very many 17/18 year olds who meet those criteria, though, and on the whole I think we'd rather they hung on and got taught by a professional, given all the statistics on young drivers.

RandomMess · 14/05/2020 23:01

My learner daughter drives me to the supermarket etc in her car. I cannot wait until she can have more lessons from a professional instructor.

At the moment the roads are quiet and we take the easiest routes but I find it nerve wracking and a huge responsibility!!

MoreSchnitzelPlease · 14/05/2020 23:17

There are amazing schemes through DLA/PIP for those who have Physical problems with pedals/gears. There are specialist instructors for those with Autism (my DSS has just passed with this scheme)

I receive PIP, but no amount of special pedals and gears will make it safe for me to drive. There are so many reasons why a person with a disability does not drive, it is incredibly naive to suggest that a few adaptations will make those reasons disappear.

Megatron · 14/05/2020 23:22

Eh? I would have thought this was a ridiculous time to learn to be honest, for all the reasons stated above.

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