To think you can't reserve a space?

[katiehuy]

We live in a popular area where usually people park on our road to access a vibrant socialising spot. We are new to the road and bought because of location.

We do not have a parking space and almost all residents park on the road (no permits).

Our neighbour always puts a cone in his space when he goes out so that people will avoid parking in it and he can park again outside his house. I once went to park in that space and he shouted at me. He says he needs it as he is disabled, although there are allocated disabled spaces down the road.

AIBU to think that this is just outrageous and he's a CF? Just so you're aware he is physically fine enough to walk a few metres from a different space and I have a visitor often who is physically disabled (paralysis) who doesn't even try this excuse.

I can't even park outside my house - I just walk. There's more cars than spaces available so it's a free for all.

Diagram for fun.

Just wondering... the car in front of your house, who owns that car?

In the dead of night, creep out and melt the cone where it stands, then stick two massive, wonky googly eyes on it.

@MadameMeursault, if I may?

Why do you want to upset your neighbour?
He's an arse

Why do you begrudge him parking outside his house?
He's an arse

Why would you want to make life more difficult for a disabled person?
Arse

What happened to “be kind”?
I refer the honourable lady to the answer I gave some moments ago

Just wondering... the car in front of your house, who owns that car?
It could be anybody. Even in areas with residents parking, it could be anyone in the surrounding area, not just on the street.

No one is entitled to park outside their own house on the street. It’s luck of the draw on the day. I would move the cone and park there. There’s some great suggestions on here but I’d also have to go with the kidnapping of said cone 🙊

Make the cone disappear.

Why do you think you have a right to store your car on the public road in the first place?

I guess because the OP pays road tax?

I doubt that he even owns the fucking cone!

Just what I was thinking. It's ironic that idiots like that will try to stop people from 'stealing' what they somehow perceive to be their own space on the public highway by using something that they have stolen from the public highway. I'm sure you can buy them legitimately online, but let's be honest, who is going to go to that effort if you can nick one free - especially when they know deep down that anybody could take the cone and hide it/steal it/destroy it, so they're not going to invest their own money in buying one.

You have just as much right to reserve your favourite spot on a public highway by leaving a cone or bin there as you you do to reserve your favourite bench or patch of grass in a public park by leaving your coat there: none whatsoever.

As for him being disabled, he could be and unable to get the council to paint him a space, but equally, it's the easiest excuse in the world to make up. He may be getting on in years and experiencing the aches and pains of ageing and thereby consider himself disabled. If so, this is a gross insult to folk (of all ages) who are genuinely disabled.

Lots of people have little selfish reasons to justify why they think they automatically deserve to get priority in all aspects of life. I remember one thread where a poster put up a sign telling people to leave the space on the road clear because, unlike anybody else in the world, she had young children and also had to bring shopping back to her house from the car. Unfortunately, just wanting something doesn't automatically entitle you to it. Real life isn't like an Enid Blyton story, where you can walk through an enchanted forest, fall in love with a dear little pixie cottage that you come across and just move in.

Why do you begrudge him parking outside his house?

This is exactly the sort of 'good nature' that CFs like this exploit. They believe fully in the fairness of give and take: 'you keep giving and I'll keep taking'. 'Be kind' works both ways; it's a great principle, but it isn't meant to make you into everybody else's doormat. Why does he begrudge OP parking as near as possible to her own house? How does he know that she doesn't have the same hidden disabilities that he claims to have? Or does he just assume that, because he loves and values himself so much, that makes him unilaterally deserving and 'special'?

I live in a village and it has been passed to the elderly people that live round the corner that I park there to annoy her and I had one women bring me a bottle of wine as apparently she made peoples life’s hell up there

This really made me laugh.

Real life isn't like an Enid Blyton story, where you can walk through an enchanted forest, fall in love with a dear little pixie cottage that you come across and just move in.

So did this. Proper Enid Blyton language and everything. Good work ladies!

You absolutely can’t reserve a space- he is a CF!

If he wants a house with his OWN space he needs to buy a house with a drive way!!!

Everyone pays road tax and have as much right to park right outside of his house as much as he has.

Where's Garda Olaf when you need him?

@Nattyjackie best idea ever!

@proseccobubblefantasies you are welcome. I aimed to deliver.

Yay a parking diagram!

Can I hope for a bridezilla thread, too?

Nobody has the right to dictate who can park where on the highway (though I do note there is one wheel on the pavement in your diagram-a tad provocative).

I'd be concerned about getting my car keyed or tyres let down, TBH, but I am sure a cheap webcam from your front window could discourage that.

@oculusthrift he spends all day walking around up and down, out the front, setting my dogs off then moaning about the dogs. He is definitely able, he's just old!

As I've mentioned - there are always a minimum of two close disabled spaces available as there aren't many disabled people on this road.

@Mummyoflittledragon he has a badge, he also has access to a disabled space literally two spaces up that is always free. He just wants to park outside his house which he says. The time I went to park outside MY house (next to his also) he told me to move to the next space so he could park there instead. Same distance to his door!

@madame because if I park there he shouts at me to move?
I also have a disability and qualify for a badge but just didn't want the label so decided not to as I'm very young.

My dad is paralysed and has a blue badge - very different but he won't let me have the space for them even when I get there first!

@nofriendsclub no idea, it changes daily. It's currently a van. Mine is parked up the road. I'm working from home so my car hasn't moved in 6 weeks. DP is the neighbourhood delivery driver so always goes out and about and also a key worker. He has to battle for a space.

What does the fact that you're very young got to do with the price of fish?

@blackforest I am going to ignore this as I'm not sure you're switched on about this thread...

@thisismytimetoshine having a disabled badge with no obvious looking disability at a young age is very stigmatised / not believed.

Right...

Narrate the cone's day to day life by sticking monologues or diary entries to it overnight.

"Dear Diary. I don't know how much more I can take of him putting his sweaty hands around my tip. I'm trapped in a prison of orange and reflective plastic... I see people driving up the road - good, honest, kind people - and I want to yell HERE! Park here, and skip freely to your homes, your beautiful creatures, but I can't. I just... can't."

I need to find something better to do