Negative thoughts are overwhelming me - not CV

[FirstTimeMum54321]

I've always been a bit of a negative thinker and I have always had to try hard to bring my mind back to a more positive place. Recently its feeling out of control. I have lots to be thankful for but my mind relays back sometimes years to situations where I've fallen out with someone or had a difficult experience. More recently I'm facing problems with my husband and step children and the negative thoughts are overwhelming me. I would much rather live alone than live with my husband some days. Although we're plodding on quite nicely at the moment my mind keeps racing back to more difficult times and I worry that once lockdown is over the difficult times with the step children will return.

Does anyone have any advice about how to deal with negative thoughts?

I could’ve written your post. I too can dwell on things that happened literally years ago and tie myself in knots about it and become quite angry / bitter. It’s worst when I go to bed and am trying to get to sleep. All I can suggest is just deal with and focus on the present. Ask yourself what problems have you got NOW, right at this moment. Recognise that worry is a useless emotion. Intrusive thoughts will come nonetheless - accept them as they come and just let them go like balloons, reassuring yourself you’ll deal with the problem if and when it arises.

Thank you MellowBird85. It really hit me today, the sun was shining, I have a well paid job, money in the bank, I enjoy work, a comfortable home, etc but all I could think of was how angry I am with something that happened four years ago? It's madness. I will try your suggestions. Thank you.

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