To ask why you like Mumsnet?

[Whenslunch]

To counter the spammy actions and attempts of some people

I've genuinely gotten so much out of using this site, though I've left and come back many times. I know there's good and bad everywhere but so far, Mumsnet is my favourite to engage in.

I'll like to ask you to share some good things about Mumsnet. Not going to try to compare it with anywhere else, just saying what we like about this one. It can be anything.

I personally have gotten useful recommendations on some products I never heard of before and still use to this day. Some of them have made a huge difference to my life.

I usually add '+mumsnet' to my google searches because 9 times out of 10, I get what I'm after.

I find a lot of the threads entertaining and as a busy site, it can take hours and some snacks. 😄

Namechanges mean I can easily feel safe, blend in or stand out if I want. It's just fun too when used for positive stuff. My favourite is when people namechange to jokingly fit the theme of an ongoing thread.

I enjoy the community feel even for a site that encourages namechange and anonymity, I feel it's LESS cliquey and social media-ish which I truly love. I don't have to worry if my post is 'liked' or not, I just add my input and move on. It takes away the mind-games people play or atleast makes it harder to notice.

What's yours?

@Whenslunch only the feminist boards tbh although I don’t post there much anymore. This site used to give a lot of support and it was wonderful but there’s definitely more abuse apologists and snobs on here now.

I find the general tone really quite nasty on here recently and the name changing definitely makes people say things and make up stories that they wouldn’t normally do if held to account. The moderation has also become very slapdash, some of the things I’ve seen left to stand for ages are awful, especially regarding disabilities and Irish people whilst whole threads go poof if they mention an ‘unmentionable‘ topic, whether they’re nasty or not. A thread tends to go one way and anyone with a different opinion gets shouted down. Puts many off even posting I think!

Justine asking us all for money at this time has also felt like a piss take, we’re all skint and this website has made loads of money over the last few years.

I know this probably isn’t what you wanted to hear but it’s honestly how I feel 🤷‍♀️

I like to see how the next generations of women are navigating this tumultuous world and the challenges it poses to a generation both uplifted by the positive outcomes of intersectional feminism and pushed down by the negative outcomes of globalism and increased automation and outsourcing of formerly key roles in the female domain.

I like that breadth of topics and diversity of posters. There are lots of frustrating things to. Reddit for example seems to promote higher quality responses.

It makes me laugh.

Me too, but probably not for the approved reasons! I wouold love to hear from some of the perfect parents twenty years down the line, all those MIL haters when they are MILs for example.

That people don't call each other hun.

That it directed me to a site where I can post without fear of the responses and where I don't get ignored. I wouldn't have known about that if it wasn't for MN.

Is that you Justine? 😂😂😂

😄😄😄 It's her long lost twin from a different mother.

Got my out of an abusive relationship when I was pregnant with dd, and has been a source of information and getting me off my high horse ever since.

@Nightbirdcackle having looked at the other side, as you refer to it, I don't think they largely consist of whitney, bitter types.

There are over 1400 users, I have seen maybe a handful who harp on about MN, certainly not the majority.

I think, given time and more users and it'll be a great little forum. It just needs to lose the MN hate.
I haven't signed up yet, just waiting for them to LTB (MN) and for more diverse posts to be be top of the active posts.

Back to what I like about MN.
There have been some hilarious threads over time. Proper laugh out loud, just what's needed at the end of a hard day.

I know this probably isn’t what you wanted to hear but it’s honestly how I feel

Well considering this is a 'what do you like' thread not a 'what do you hate' one but also glad you've got that off your chest. Seems you needed an outlet on Mumsnet especially.

I still ask, what do you like about Mumsnet? There's got to be something you enjoy if you're still here or do you enjoy hating it? 😄

I stated what I did like and what I didn’t. Sorry if that wasn’t arse licking enough for you!

Also plenty of other people have mentioned what they don’t like as well, so not sure why I’m the only one getting passive aggressive emojis 😊

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Ok thanks for your "input".

I like having company. I dont get much adult interaction atm as Im wfh and it fills the void. Also im in a non english speaking land, plus I suspect Im on the autistic spectrum so normal interaction in a second language drains me. Reading and choosing when to reply in english doesnt! Ive noticed that as a result of this Im better at formulating feelings and arguments, both here and irl.

Ive learned a lot about relationships and boundaries because on here people express the basic social rules which no one has done with me before. I had no idea I could refuse treatment or intervention during birth until I read it on here.

Ive read some excellent selfhelp books recommended on here, some have really changed my life for the better.

I like the anti tweeness. I like the directness and have learned to LISTEN to people who disagree. You get a real range of people here - rich, poor, from all backgrounds. I like the practical help people offer. I LOVE the christmas threads throughout the year. The podcast recommendations!

Some posters are v v funny. Some of the threads in classics are great.

But putting hair removal cream down the drain doesnt work.

To quote a Mumsnet staple: interesting first post MNHQ

I came here in 2004 pregnant & over whelmed in real life. Last year bus MN I got a grip of the peri menopause.
The recent ' MN comments that make you laugh thread' reminded me how entertaining I used to find the uncensored voices of my peers .
I wonder how the full-time posters from a few years ago view the board now?
I found being asked for money a bit distasteful, fair enough in the dial up days, but it's very crowded here now and the spelling and punctuation standards have dropped so I feel we have paid a price already.

It's really made me laugh sometimes, there are some right fuckers on here though who take great pleasure in being a bitch . I suppose that's refreshing because who is that honest in real life . I do think occasionally some people should tone it down though and even when you point it out that it's a bit out of order it's all what have I done .
Overall I've enjoyed different peoples points of view even the hysterical ones .
Its creating a balance and walking away when the odd thread gets heated .

I don’t like it, I’m merely bored.

For the support. Currently on a pregnancy thread for my second child and it is an invaluable resource currently especially with none of my friends pregnant atm plus with all the craziness going on, it's lovely to have others get what you are going through.

Plus the funny friends that make me laugh out loud.

The lack of 'huns'. You ask for advice - you get it, often without platitudes and often with kindness. There's no BS though - if you're a dick, you get told you're a dick.

I'm straight talking and cannot deal with all the 'you ok babes' and 'you've got this mama' shite that you get elsewhere. I don't (often) need a hand hold, I do need advice or guidance and you get that without that fluffy bollocks you can get online.

I've never seen another site where you can read one post where the OP is being ripped a new one for being an arsehole, and then read another where there is so much love and concern for one person that it reduces me to tears.

The people, for the most part, are real. They don't appear to be fake with their 'awww hun' platitudes, it's real advice from real people who have had real experiences.

I've seen threads where women have posted about loss, abusive relationships etc and then updated to say they've moved on, feel better or have kicked their cheating / abusive partner out. The support they've recieved is like no other forum I've seen and for them to be able to garner the strength from strangers on a screen is so powerful. The hivemind of MN!

There's always someone online. I especially like the late night crowd baying for blood at 11pm.

There's always someone with a view, no matter how obscure your question. MN has lots of very intelligent opinionated people, it makes for good chat.

There's always someone else who's been in your shoes who can share their experience or provide advice.

It's the only forum on the internet I've found so far where the users are: 1. Predominantly female; 2. Predominantly adults; 3. Predominantly from the UK; and 4. Grammatically competent, and thus slightly less of a headache to read than the rest of the internet!

Not gonna lie I love AIBU it’s pure entertainment.

I like the swearing.

The name changing facility is the best part of MN. It makes me feel free and empowered.

I certainly won't be joining the pound shop mumsnet forum, it looks like a mess with animated gifs.

There can be mistakes from time to time but I've found the moderation here quite fair and unbiased. People are generally left to their own devices unless they cross the line.