To ask what keeps you occupied during a break up?

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Bearing in mind I have 3dcs....and we don't have much freedom right now!

Anyone?

I find an adult colouring book very relaxing. Boring but maybe organise a cupboard or have a clear out of the wardrobes. Or a nice bath with some candles and a book.

Hope it gets better for you soon x

I'm going through the same OP
My husband left nearly 2 weeks ago x

Work and more work.

Journaling, watching funny shows like friday night dinner repeats with the DC (they're teens) re reading favourite books, dog walks, rearranging my house back to mine.

I'm also a couple of weeks into a breakup

Probably the last thing you feel like doing but really, get up and exercise - home videos from YouTube. It gives you more energy than a nap and alleviates your mood.

Colour and paint with kids

How old are kids? Will they sit and watch a movie with you?

It depends.

I clean when I need to take my mind off things. I am a very anxious person and the energy makes me feel as though I can't sit still.
Whenever I feel anxious I go through the rooms, organise and move things around.
Everyone knows when I'm having a bad day because they come in and the living room and dining room have been switched round

If I've had a really shitty time and I'm just feeling like I need a cry I change my bedding so it's fresh, have a hot bubble bath with candles and a show on the iPad, shave, wash my hair, apply a nice moisturiser, clean pyjamas and bed.

Hope it gets better for you soon

I would usually clean and have a sort out but I'm the one that's left, I've gone to my mums. Have another thread going but realised my 'H' was emotionally abusive. He's extremely angry at me for leaving and I'm sure that we are done.

I just need something to keep me going over the next couple of weeks/months which are no doubt going to be crappy.

Thanks for all the ideas x

@saffy1234 sorry to hear that, hope you are ok x

Reading crime novels. Not too much emotional engagement and takes you out of your own thoughts.

Sounds like a tough time OP, I'm sorry x

I usually redecorate, move the furniture around, rehang pictures, ring the changes.

And change what I have for breakfast.

Make my moving on show.

Going through the same too op. Stay strong

Find some good series on sky or Netflix to watch, preferably not anything with romance in

I watched a marathon of the vicar of Dibley with my break up. I just find the Dawn French so warm and it’s an easy watch. It really took my mind off it. Exercise also helped. I think strong in body strong in mind.

I love to watch stand up comedy on Netflix, doesn’t really matter who as long as it makes you properly laugh out loud

Vicar of dibley is a good one. I'm hoping I'll be able to do all this. Right now youngest ds is still awake as he's totally out of routine and extremely confused. He's only 20 months and missing his dad I think.

Definitely stay away from anything romantic. If you have Amazon Prime then I recommend The Middle.
It's a brilliant series - there's 10 seasons with 20+ episodes per season.

Just about a dysfunctional American family but it's so true to life and funny.
It was my saviour after my last break up!

Exercise and anything that releases the body's natural feel good hormones. I was devastated when my DH left suddenly 3 years ago. Couldnt sleep and a nurse friend suggested exercise. I walked 20 mins a day & joined a gym (where I met soon to be DH2 lol). I lost 3 stone, my confidence soared & tbh when my DH begged me to come back I laughed in his face.
I know it is hard right now but there may come a time that u realise this break up was the best thing that ever happened to you!

The American show Girls really helped too.