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out for a jog and women yells at me to stop

189 replies

suchclearwater · 12/05/2020 17:04

Really feeling quite confused. I feel like I have done something wrong but I don't think that I have. Or have I? I was out jogging in some fields (a popular area for joggers, dog walkers etc) and came near two women. I was at least 5 metres away from them and keeping that distance as I was passing them when one of the women shouted, Stop!' at me.I stopped and said I am at least 2 metres away from you and she came back with, well I have a chest infection so that isn't good enough. She then went on to say that all us joggers were just panting and spreading our breathe everywhere. I honestly didn't know what to say. In the end I just jogged about another 4 metres away from her and carried on but was left feeling slightly mystified and a bit cross. I don't think I had done anything wrong. Her tone was really aggressive. What do you think? Should I have apologized or something? I don't think I should have but clearly she did.

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Notenoughchocolateomg · 13/05/2020 20:33

I would have replied "if you have a chest infection, then you stay at home, you nobber" and maybe growled at her a bit.

not2impressed · 13/05/2020 20:59

Eh? Chest pains etc are a symptom. Of covid she needs to be self isolating now. She hhe was wrong not you.

bright55 · 13/05/2020 20:59

No you did nothing wrong although I think wipe walking especially the elderly might think runners will not stop and come too close. If she had a chest infection why was she out and hat if she had coron a virus was she wearing a mask. The other day my relation was running and ax he was keeping his distance a wOman came towards him waving her walking stick at him shouting stop.

PseudoCream02 · 13/05/2020 21:03

@Blah1881 I would have thought nutter too but I haven't had an adult conversation in 8 weeks, I would have moved back and asked her about her week Grin

Darbs76 · 13/05/2020 21:06

If you see her again I’d be telling her to shut up and why the heck isn’t she isolating?

GuppytheCat · 13/05/2020 21:18

A couple jogging together coming towards me on a farm track. Rather than staying together on one side they split up, one one side and one the other.

Oh god, sounds like something we’d do - either that or the sideways dance, or both veer to the same side but fall over the dog/the verge/our own feet.

PseudoCream02 · 13/05/2020 21:18

I get alot of you are upset but where is your sense of humour? Do you guys not have fun with these situations? Or is it just me? Don't take things to heart, make it fun, funny, or get by, don't get stressed. Maybe her day was crap, it usually is when people are hostile, be that smile in her day and be nice, tell a joke, be nice? I know everyone is on edge and thats not everyones cup of tea but we all need a laugh right now, and company.

Ferret27 · 13/05/2020 21:32

Hope she was wearing a mask if she was that worried... i had to walk into the road between tightly parked cars carrying 2 heavy bags of shopping because two people were chatting on the path outside their house both had no intention of moving so I could get by, only I had a mask on. The world is ultimate divided into those that care and those that don’t ...

Thehappygardener · 13/05/2020 22:12

Suchclearwater: I’m sorry you were upset, and do hope you feel more relaxed now. I’m a jogger who also walks slowly at times with my dogs, so do have a view of both sides of the coin. I don’t think you did anything wrong, I suspect you caught a bit of backlash from the woman who was feeling pretty worried and perhaps had been frightened by other joggers getting too close to her? I’m sure you were polite and I’m going to suggest that if it happens again, you might say: ‘I’m sorry you are upset, perhaps I was a bit close’, and you then move away. That’s then the end of the story, the woman would be happy, you’ll stay relaxed, you haven't actually apologised (you hadn’t done anything wrong of course), but have acknowledged that she was upset. Some of the very confrontational replies that some people here have suggested you give, really don’t help the situation at all, and just get everyone completely wound up and angry.

Research in fact has suggested that sweat comes off joggers, potentially spraying over several metres, and although any risk of spreading an infection is unlikely, it’s still there. In France, joggers and cyclists are asked (I understand) to stay ten metres from each other and presumably from other people, and in Spain I think that people exercising by running, jogging, etc, go out at a different time to others who are slower.

Some joggers can, I’m afraid, be too fast and too close. I’ve actually been knocked recently by a jogger coming along the path in our park, as I simply had nowhere else to go, and the jogger was not stopping for anything or anyone! Last week, a friend was pushed over, by mistake, by a jogger rushing round a corner on a narrow pavement. It can be nerve wracking trying to get out of the park gate with joggers and cyclists coming in at speed without, it seems, any consideration for others including people with pushchairs or in wheelchairs.

Anyway, hope you are ok now and that you dont have any more people shouting at you. 🌺

FelicisNox · 13/05/2020 23:02

YANBU.

She was unnecessarily rude and if she has a chest infection she should be a home. A walk around the block for fresh air is more than enough for her..

Pingu32 · 13/05/2020 23:20

As many have said , she shouldn't be out with a chest infection, let alone shouting! I bet that hurt - if she really has a chest infection. She'd have poked a bear had it run past!

Harvestsquirrel1 · 13/05/2020 23:26

Good on you for taking care of yourself. That woman says she has an infection, therefore she has no business out breathing her germs everywhere where other people could catch it. You were fine. She was rude and wrong.

Blueink · 13/05/2020 23:51

Have absolutely hated the increase in joggers, adding so much to stress of going to work, every morning breathing and even coughing on me (when they can easily avoid me by using the parallel running track or going on to the grass but choose to run close by on a narrow pavement & I can’t get our their way quickly enough!). Others like OP are aware and considerate.

Yeahnahmum · 14/05/2020 04:30

She should have stayed home with her chest infection
But I also understand the dislike for runners right now... They should keep much further away then 4 meter I feel personally

Wineywoman · 14/05/2020 08:43

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ITonyah · 14/05/2020 08:46

Are you addicted?

isitsummertimeyet · 14/05/2020 08:46

The nutter shouldn't of been out if shes got a Chest infection, shes the problem not you.

Wineywoman · 14/05/2020 08:54

ITonyah
Sorry, I've accidentally posted in the middle of another thread but dong know how to delete it and repost. Answer, yes, but can we discuss when it gets rerouted? Thanks for your response.

LifeIsAPotato · 14/05/2020 09:34

@JasonPollack. I did that too on a recent walk in a park near where I live, a young man started complaining we were keeping too much distance! Confused Can't please some people!
Op I don't think you were in the wrong either!

CherryStoneTree · 14/05/2020 11:20

I don’t think either was wrong. It might have been the first time she was out and another jogging might have just ran in touching distance, so she panicked and asked you to stop as she didn’t know you were going to be considerate.
Of she feels 5m is her safe distance and was in a field to find that then that’s acceptable for her and she shouldn’t stay at home if she can get out. Even prisoners leave for excercise/fresh air each day, albeit in a confined yard.

Honeybee85 · 14/05/2020 11:25

YANBU

You were following and respecting guidelines so you did nothing wrong.
If that wasn't good enough for her then it's her problem and she should have stayed home. She had no right to harass others in such way, the world doesn't revolve around her. Silly woman.

wildchild554 · 14/05/2020 12:42

YANBU, I'm currently recovering from pneumonia again and if I wasn't shielding already and was able to go out I wouldn't be freaking out when you are obviously keeping your distance. IMO she shouldn't even be out till it's cleared as it will put her more at risk if she gets it and tbh even if I didn't have to shield I would be staying in with this to avoid getting the virus anyway cause even common cold is a problem for me atm. I think shes in the wrong here in several ways.

fran245 · 14/05/2020 13:28

YANBU l go running and every now and again someone will complain at me and that’s before the lockdown, she should have stayed in if she is ill

Baseline2815 · 14/05/2020 13:33

It is pretty much impossible on large sections where I run to keep 2m from others, let alone 5. City parks and pavements are crowded, hemmed in by buildings on one side and traffic on the other. If I run in the mornings, it's easier, but I can't always do that.

I think if you're out, you have to accept the risks. When I am out just walking, at least a dozen people in an hour's walk pass within a metre of me. People come too close in grocery stores. It's just what it's like to be out in the world - there are no guarantees that people can or will always distance appropriately.

I get Covid whiplash on Mumsnet. On one thread joggers and cyclists outside are spreading disease, on another people are baying for the schools to open.

Blondie1980s · 14/05/2020 13:38

Based on these experiments, Blocken and his team of researchers concluded that when taking part in sports, the 1.5-meter rule is not sufficient to protect against infection with the COVID-19 virus. Instead, they recommend a distance of at least four to five meters when walking in the same direction, 10 meters when running and cycling slowly, and at least 20 meters for faster movement.

How many pavements or cycle ways or pathways are 10- 20 meters wide? If you have to spend that distance then youd be waiting all night to try and do a run or jog or cycle ...

This is not achievable... Yu did nothing wrong and maybe she should stick to exercise in non known local jogging spots? Perhaps she should wear a mask? (though they might not be totally effective, but still you were trying to maintain the distance rules and the government guidelines, you did nothing wrong..