Need to vent!

[crazybutkind]

Currently 34 weeks pregnant, and have a toddler, partner still working, on my own all day due to lockdown.

Partner comes home at 4:45 gets in the shower watches the governments briefing at 5 then from 6-7 he will play with our toddler while I make dinner, wash up, put away and generally tidy the days chaos away. 7 I take LO for a bath we come down at 8 she chills and watches a film usually while having supper then I take her to bed at 9 quick story then sleep.

When I come downstairs partner is having his supper and then shuts off everything and we both go to bed.

I am exhausted and I feel like a one man band looking after everything but finances.

He pays for shopping and mortgage I pay for bills.

You’re 34 weeks pregnant! He should be getting up more than 50 % and also doing bedtimes at an age appropriate time most nights.

Set your expectations now or with the new baby you’ll be in a whole world of shit.

Just some suggestions:

• Can all three of you eat together, and then DP tidies up properly while you do bath?
• Can you institute a rule that once you go upstairs its wind down time - so bath, and then straight to bed for a story?
• I find with my toddler that if I draw out a routine for her there is less whinging. ie - it's not Mummy saying we have to brush our teeth - look it's the chart saying we have to now brush our teeth. And mummy says "I'm sorry darling, I would also love to just play all night, but the chart says you have to sleep now". This doesn't work perfectly - but it sometimes works, and it's a nice thing to try?
• Can you get a gro-clock to encourage toddler to sleep through the night? We started using ours when DD turned 2 and it really works!

Thank you for trooping on? What a fucking knob!

I hope you replied, I have to because you do fuck all

When baby comes are you going to be doing all the wake-ups with baby and with toddler?

If he's going to do toddler, best get him into the habit now? Will also let toddler get used to it before baby arrives - you don't want them to think they've stopped getting Mummy at night because the new baby gets Mummy now...

The treatment for pelvic hurdle pain is rest, rest, rest - it can lead to permanent damage.

He needs to take over when he gets home from work whilst you have a lay down... you Cooke dinner and him do EVERYTHING else!!