Aibu to ask how the hell to permanently get over someone

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I've tried deleting social media, not contacting them, not bringing them up in conversation with others, trying to find other things to do .. But still, I can't seem to get over them and stop obsessing and being jealous over thoughts of them with someone else. It is really unhealthy and I just want to be able to enjoy my life and be happy without any of my happiness depending on them. I have lovely children and not a bad life at all so why is it so hard. Any advice greatly appreciated.

Becca19962014 Would you share your story?

It's very complicated, and, upsetting. So I won't be sharing it, sorry.

The only thing to say is he wasn't abusive and the reason it never "worked" wasn't due to him. Accepting how I feel as being what I feel helps a lot.

Therapy always stalled on why I don't "want" a relationship.
I simply, aside from him, never saw the need.

Therapy addressed things like limerance, simply wasn't the case.

Stay as busy as you can with things that's require concentration, start a new hobby that's not related to him at all.

Unfortunately, it just takes time. You'll get there :)