To not be attracted to DH while he has a moustache?

[BeSensible]

DH has decided to grow his moustache back. This will be the third time he has had a moustache.

He is in the armed forces so the first time he grew it was during a deployment. The issue had never come up before then but I explained to DH that I really can’t stand moustaches. I know other people do like them but personally, I just find them a huge turn off.

DH was upset that I didn’t like it but said that he would shave it off, which he did.

The next time DH deployed, it was a very long deployment and he said he wanted to grow the moustache back. He grew it back and on the occasions when he was back home for his R&R, I couldn’t be intimate with him. I know some people won’t agree with that but for some reason, beards and moustaches really, really gross me out. He assured me that this was the last time he would grow one so I put up with it.

Anyway, 1 year later, he has decided he is now growing his moustache back. I’m upset about this but have told him it’s his body/his choice. I just can’t force myself to feel attracted to him with a moustache. I wish I could but I really can’t.

AIBU to feel this way? I’ve just no idea how to deal with this.

I think YABU a little bit... it depends on how you would take it if he turned around and said he wasn't attracted to you due to pubic hair, hairy legs, peach fuzz, etc etc.

If this was the other way round and my partner said he wasn't attracted to me because of hair growth, I'd be devastated.

To be honest, I'm on your side with this. Feel free to have a moustache, but don't expect me to force myself to be intimate with you when I don't want to

Thanks for replying @mollibu.

I do feel really bad about it. I just don’t know how to change my feelings. I have always hugely disliked them and I just can’t find DH attractive with it.

Can’t stand them. Dh new that from day 1 so thankfully never grown one but I can’t kiss him when it’s a few days past stubble as it’s gross even at that point for me. He can grow his hair but I don’t have to touch it or like it. Up to him what he wants more touch or facial hair.

My DH grew a moustache for Movember. It made him look like an army officer from the Boer War.

Not attractive and it scratches!

I don't like facial hair on men, and it is ok and non-hypocritical to say so, because men don't generally start kissing a woman's legs or armpits (if that's their thing, fine, but as a general thing) so it doesn't matter if you have hair there.

YANBU! I could never be with someone who has a beard or moustache. I don’t know why but the thought of kissing someone with one turns me sick 🤢

I’m the opposite my husband has a full beard and I love it and he knows I do I don’t like it when he shaves it off because he ends up looking like a 12 year old and I have told him that I don’t like it when he shaves but it’s his face not mine.