Sick of reminding family they aren’t allowed to visit

[JKD1982]

I know Boris was unclear on his latest guidance. But I am 36 weeks pregnant and FED UP reminding my family they can’t just pop over for a cup of tea as they are missing seeing my pregnancy and they’re lonely.

I haven’t self isolated for over 10 weeks to jeopardise my baby and my health now for a social visit?

Even once the baby is born, my MIL is a foster carer and the baby she has is in and out of hospital as he’s unwell. Am I fair to say that no she can’t visit and hold my baby until she has self isolated for 14 days and hasn’t been in contact with hospital a and e?

Feel like I am starting to get a bit melodramatic about it. But what’s the point of taking any risks? I haven’t seen a soul other than my husband for months. Why should they just pop in as and when they like???

@Nubbled....Thats what we are being told in the States too. No visiting newborns for 12 weeks becaise of a probability of Covid and Kawasaki disease being linked. Children are very susceptible to Kawasaki

@JKD1982 my family seem to think it’s my personal vendetta against them. They don’t seem to register that it’s not allowed anyway.

I’ve not spoken to my dad in 6 weeks. The children FaceTime him twice a week and Dh is here so if he rings my phone I get Dh to pick up and speak to him. My dad has always been difficult but it’s something else now.

Thing is, could you imagine if they passed something on? You’d never forgive them.

I would never forgive them and think ultimately they are selfish for asking. Why we should make exceptions cause they feel sad and left out. And you don’t think we do, having missed seeing or getting any support through months of a pregnancy??

I meant to say we feel sad and left out too.

I spent my first trimester in bed due to sickness. Finally felt normal in January and got back to work and out and about. Then back to house bound since Feb as I started early when a few local cases were announced.

My mother is still “popping to the shops” and having a social garden cocktail with friends and neighbours. I haven’t been in a shop, haven’t touched the post, haven’t spoken to a soul but my husband. Yet I should still feel sorry for her

I know. It’s stressful enough as it is being pregnant at the moment without family making things more difficult.

I was very sick from the start too so I’ve been housebound since January anyway! I’ve only left the house for antinatal appointments this year.

Me too. 1 hospital visit. 2 midwife appointments. And that’s it. No other trips out or any social contact at all. I am so lucky I love my husband and we have a lovely home and so excited to be a mum. But I’m sick of family complaining when in comparison they’ve had drinks with neighbours, met up with friends in parks, been to shops and had loads of takeaways delivered etc. And no constant stress about the state of the NHS and the well-being of their baby.

Frustrating!!

You are in charge full stop. So tell your family to get real, and stop being so foolish.

In my experience OP, when you are pregnant, everyone thinks your pregnancy and birth are their business so will overstep everything including wanting to visit during lockdown.
I had my baby last year but the entitlement that some people felt to be present for every moment drove me insane. To the point where we chose not to tell anyone that wasn't part of my birth plan that I was in labour, because they'd no doubt try to get in to the birth centre.

YANBU.