To be tired and uninterested?

[malteser11]

I had a baby 11 weeks ago, traumatic birth that ended with an emergency section. I was in hospital for 10 days. Long story short, I'm juggling a fairly demanding baby at the moment along with homeschooling DC1 and all the normal household stuff, cooking, cleaning etc. DH is working from home and he does get up with the baby on alternate nights but during the day it's as I described above. By bedtime I'm knackered - I can't even stay awake long enough to read a couple of pages of a book.
DH has obviously been in the mood and twice in the last five days when I've been asleep, he's come and woke me up to try it on. Firstly, I'm not back on the pill yet (waiting for my first period) and secondly I'm tired and feeling a bit crap - still get pains from my wound and I've got a bad back at the moment and just generally fed up . However when I've explained these things I then get an entire day of the silent treatment. Am I really BU to say no or should I just suck it up?

Giving someone the silent treatment is abuse.

No !! Sucking up .. my DH has never done this ... it's abusive ... 23 years , 3 kids 2 c sections and one Grandson...
look after you and the babe

No!!!

I had a traumatic birth with both mine

My first I spent near on a year in hospital

My husband had to wait over a year!!!! I was in icu for about 4 months. So what could he of done?

When I got home. I was stil quite unwell. So it was probably a good 4 months after that

He didn't once pressure me. My god if he ever woke me for sex. I think he's get my wrath!!!!

You're still bleeding usually. You've just had a baby. Please use a condom. You're very fertile after having a baby. Like super fertile.

Both of mine were emergency c sections too

Now. I'm a bit weird
Mine never hurt. The dr don't think I've got pain nerves in my stomach. But that's a whole new story

However. Some women don't even get out of bed for 5 days after. So it's got to be super sore. Even after 10 days!!!

What a selfish twat! I agree that the silent treatment is abuse and the sign of a real arsehole. You've been through so much and shouldn't have to deal with a twat who sulks about no sex!

OP he's giving you the silent treatment....how pathetic is that. Your body has been through a lot recently and you are still adapting to the new baby. He's selfish and immature. He's trying to manipulate you, tell him to grow up or get lost.

Your husband is being incredibly selfish and seems to care only for his own needs. Waking you up to meet them when you so badly need your rest is absolutely astonishing. Do not ‘suck it up’, if he sulks then that’s pathetic behaviour and completely lacking in empathy. Sounds like he could be doing more to help too such as cooking so maybe if he took some of the load off you you might not be too exhausted. But his behaviour is far from attractive and you should remind him of that.

Where do these poor women find these assholes they end up in long term relationships with? You are with a real loser and how you haven't snapped and used the last of your energy to lamp him is beyond me! He should be doing far more parenting and adulting! Btw wake me up for sex he'd be a eunuch

If DH woke me up for sex he'd be in trouble, let alone eleven weeks after birth and then having a sulk! Is he fucking joking??

Thanks everyone - I just needed a sense check. He's been a crabby arse all day so I've just let him get on with it, he can come out of his mood the same way he went into it. I think I was just starting to doubt myself and think maybe I should be 100% back to "normal" by now after 11 weeks.