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To wonder how many other kids don’t want to go back to school?

65 replies

Leafbrightshiningnight · 11/05/2020 08:08

My DS (9yr) keeps adamantly saying he doesn’t want to go back to school. He’s never loved it (mild SEN) but I’m surprised he doesn’t want to go back and see his friends etc. He seems to be really enjoying being at home, a different pace of life etc.

Do anyone else’s DC feel like this?

OP posts:
Fluffybutter · 11/05/2020 08:14

Nope , my dd9 really misses her friends and teachers but she enjoys school

pumpkinpie01 · 11/05/2020 08:16

I have asked my dc6 a couple of times if he is missing school and he says no. I asked him why as he enjoys school and he just says he enjoys being at home with me too . I really thought he would be missing playing with kids his own age but apparently not .

CigarsofthePharoahs · 11/05/2020 08:16

My year 1 child is ambivalent. He misses his friends and does need structure. My year 4 child is desperate to get back. He's loved time at home but really does miss his friends and his teacher. One particular friend he misses most of all!

QuixoticQuokka · 11/05/2020 08:17

No, my 13 year old who doesn't even like school (favourite subject is lunch) has agreed to go back. He's been home alone for weeks now.

Finerumpus · 11/05/2020 08:17

I have able, sociable, sporty kids. They don’t want to go back. They are not being lazy at home; they are doing work and being creative. School is just not very appealing.

Kljnmw3459 · 11/05/2020 08:18

Mine is the same op, oldest one is in y2 and he's not really that bothered about seeing his friends in real life, he's happy with virtual playdates. The only thing he's worried about rn is whether he gets to celebrate his birthday with friends.

mdh2020 · 11/05/2020 08:18

I have three grandchildren. The oldest has Aspergers and would be happy never to leave her bedroom again; the middle one (yr7) has anxiety issues and was only just getting used to secondary school at the start of the lockdown; the youngest is in yr 3 and loves school and can’t wait to go back. She will be heartbroken when she realises that she won’t be going back before September.
Not all children like school even if they like learning.

LongBlobson · 11/05/2020 08:19

My two (both primary) don't want to go back. They would like to be able to play with friends, but are not fussed about school. They prefer the more relaxed pace at home.

Bluntness100 · 11/05/2020 08:21

I think it’s like adults not wanting to go back to work op. Once back they will be fine.

regularbutpanickingabit · 11/05/2020 08:21

I have one who has got to the point where he’s hating homeschool (secondary) and is desperate to go back, one who is LOVING it and doesn’t want to go back (also secondary) and one who is so confused and wants to go back to see his friends and teacher but wants to stay home too.

amy85 · 11/05/2020 08:22

My two are desperate to go back.... especially my yr6

regularbutpanickingabit · 11/05/2020 08:22

Oops, 3rd one is reception!

PineappleDanish · 11/05/2020 08:22

My three are DESPERATE to get back, see their friend,s get back into their routine and resume their education.

I'm good at a lot of things, teaching three children different subjects at different levels is not one of them.

Punxsutawney · 11/05/2020 08:22

My autistic Ds has lots of school anxiety. He does not want to return to education at all. He is due to start sixth form in September and I'm not sure I will be able to get him to return. Especially as there will not even be an induction day to help transition.

Sandybval · 11/05/2020 08:23

I can't say it's surprising that some children aren't fussed about going back to school.

rawlikesushi · 11/05/2020 08:23

I teach Y3 and have spoken to all 35 of my families over the past week. There is an even split between those children who miss school and those who are really happy at home, so your dc isn't that unusual.

HandfulOfFlowers · 11/05/2020 08:24

Nope, mine can't wait to go back. My youngest is a sociable extrovert, and I am watching a bit of him ebb away with every day that passes like this.

MarshaBradyo · 11/05/2020 08:24

My two are so keen to go back, especially the teen. He’s flagging and misses seeing his friends irl.

MarshaBradyo · 11/05/2020 08:25

The ten year old likes some elements of staying home (playing with toddler) but does miss it and wants to go back overall.

arethereanyleftatall · 11/05/2020 08:27

My dc love being at home, but they love being at school too.

lazylinguist · 11/05/2020 08:28

Dd14 doesn't want to go back. She's a very bright student with no problems at school, but she finds school (and most of her teachers Hmm) annoying and would far rather do her work at home in her own time (preferably still in her pyjamas with a cup of tea). Ds12 is getting a bit bored and stir-crazy though - he won't quite admit he wants to go back, but I think he does really!

Tumbleweed101 · 11/05/2020 08:30

I have one in Y6 and one in Y9. At the announcement yesterday both groaned. My Y9 child is desperate to go back to school and see friends and get ready for starting GCSE courses next year and my Y6 doesn’t want to go back to the routine as although they want to see friends she said it won’t be the same as all the ‘fun’ Y6 stuff will be cancelled - they had a week away from school trip booked in June.

cliffdiver · 11/05/2020 08:32

DDs are 6 (Y1) and 8 (Y3), they both want to go back, especially DD1.

I'm a teacher and they were most put out that I haven't been sending them to school, as they are 'allowed' Grin (DH is WFH and I'm in school 2 days).

I haven't told them yet that there may be a phased return this academic year and DD1 may be expected to return from June.

Tumbleweed101 · 11/05/2020 08:32

Personally speaking if we’d had this situation when I was school age and wouldn’t have wanted to go back. School was some of my worse years!

Alicemovedtothecity · 11/05/2020 08:34

One child here (Yr5) who is over the moon there is no school think it will be a real struggle to get them back in to school when the time eventually comes. Not looking forward to the tears and tantrums already Sad