Need some hope!

[Needsomehope]

NC for this.

Basically tonight Iv reached my wall- I’m struggling to see any positivity at all in the medium to short term.

FTM who gave birth a few weeks ago, living about an hour and a half from parents.

Haven’t seen them since giving birth, no idea when we will be able to, so they haven’t met DC who is their first grandchild. I am gutted for her and feeling sorry for myself that I feel so isolated and negative at what should be the happiest time of our lives.

I can’t even see when things will change to allow us to meet our family again- I really thought there would be something in tonight’s update, I think I had been pinning everything on it and when there wasn’t I just can’t pick myself up again.

I feel my parents are missing out on so much in the first few weeks and now months of dc’s life and this time we won’t get back.

We both have been properly isolating aswell not even breaking or bending any of the rules- it makes me so mad when I see people not adhering to them.

AIBU to think that allowing small immediate family reunions is more important than shops, garden centres and exercise?

I don't think seeing family is more important than restarting your economy but I do believe that there should definitely be some leeway with it

It's up to you, your family and the risk assessment y'all do.

Congratulations on your baby.

Wait for the full details of the new guidance to be published tomorrow. It looks like you will be able to meet up with one person from another household, provided you are outside and stay 2m apart. So maybe take some picnic blankets or camping chairs to a local park. So you could meet each of your parents individually and show them the baby from 2m away. Not ideal, but I've had a lockdown baby too, and it is what I am hoping to do.

See: www.theguardian.com/world/2020/may/10/uk-coronavirus-lockdown-what-has-boris-johnson-announced

Being a FTM is challenging at the best of times, made more difficult by this lockdown. It’s hard to not have the support and celebrations you would usually have. Take it one day at a time, be kind to yourself. The baby will still have a great relationship with grandparents in due course and I’m sure is still a source of joy for them just by existing. I had DC3 in January and feel so grateful she arrived before all this but grandparents etc still missing seeing her. They want her to be safe though. So am sending photos and doing video calls. This time will pass.