How to gently decline DH’s baking

[Slothkin]

My lovely DH has started making cakes or biscuits a couple of times a week, which is great - a very important chill out time for him. However I just don’t have that much of a sweet tooth. He becomes a bit petulant if I don’t want to try his latest creation. He’s swapping baked goods with a friend of ours who is pregnant and we’re getting food for and is also getting a bit cross if I don’t want to eat her bakes. I know it sounds ridiculous but I just don’t want it! Cheese now...

Ask him to do savoury bakes.

Can you ask him to make savoury bakes and biscuits? Cheese scones, rosemary biscuits etc? Loads of herby cakes with rosemary and olive oil that aren’t too sweet.

Accept them, then quickly stuff them somewhere and go back and throw them in the bin later

Could you suggest some more savoury creations that you’d like him to make for you? My DP is incredibly fussy so I now tend to make more basic things like a Victoria sponge or brownies because I know they’ll be gobbled up. I know the feeling of making food for others and it not being appreciated

You will have to wear clothing with big, deep pockets for the foreseeable future.

Have you got a hungry cat or dog who could help you out?

It’s nice hes enjoying a hobby but you don’t have to scarf it all down. Could you head him off before he starts and explain that you’re sure it’s going to turn out great etc but you’re not up for anything sweet at the moment with your pregnancy appetite? Then at least he’s aware early on. You could still make a fuss of him and say how good it smells etc. Or as others have said, could you suggest what would you fancy eating and see if he’s keen to try that out?

Surely no thank you should do?

What about cheese scones or straws? You could even suggest baking bread or doing some pizza dough, that freezes really well. Anything savoury really - if there's something you particularly like, ask him to make you some. As a last resort, you could send the baked goods to me to 'dispose of'.

Suggest he tries making interesting breads. Focaccia, ciabatta, sourdough, the list is endless. Baking good bread is a physical, biological & technical challenge. Men love this stuff. It will keep him happily occupied for months, and you get to eat all the delicious savoury bread.

Win-win!

My DH is the same - unfortunately he's unemployed at the moment so I have a long term problem! Unlike you I love everything that he makes... but I am fat and need to resist! I am gluten free and he is very generous and has worked out good recipes for GF biscuits and cakes. He makes proper bread too, luckily I'm cant eat that! He does do savoury stuff which is useful - cheese oatcakes today, yummy! Can you encourage your DH to make bread? Takes a while and the result will be useful I'm sure...

Ooohh id love to have someone make some cheese straws or scones for me. Part of the reason I bake sweet things for DP is that I don’t have a sweet tooth so don’t feel a need to eat them but if there were savoury snacks lying around 😋

I think you should tell him how good they are and suggest he sells them online. Invest in some nice packaging, channel his inner geek to run up a simple site and some graphics and voila! you have a cottage industry/another monetary stream/holiday fund money.

Crucially though, you are not allowed to eat the profits - say you'll be his sampler and test a small part of each batch and that's it!

Lovely DH does make absolutely superb bread - which I will happily demolish with no prompting whatsoever! I guess I just need to remind him each time I’m happy to try a bite but my thing would much much be more a nice chunk of homemade bread, some cheese and butter than a surprise slice of carrot cake.

And @Sparklesocks thanks for a lovely message but I’m not the pregnant one - just look it at the moment!

So sorry, I misread your OP!! Damn that would’ve been a great excuse

Send them to me, I'll eat them!

@Sparklesocks no worries at all! I must admit we have some suspiciously fat blackbirds at the moment... 🤣

Thanks everyone! I know it’s such an absolutely ridiculous concern I just genuinely didn’t quite know how to deal with it well for us both! Cheese staws or cupcakes for you all according to preference 🤗