To not want to call 999

[IhaveaBigBum]

I'm in a really stressful situation with my mum and her mental health, and could really do with some advice as I feel so lost about what to do for the best.
This is something I have dealt with since I was a child so not a new situation, however lately her mental health seems to have deteriorated so badly I think she may be having some kind of psychotic episode.
I have long suspected she is schizophrenic as well as bipolar.
She has been sectioned in the past but not since I was a young child. Since then the entire family has cut her off (for reasons I do understand) However dealing with this by myself as a young teen with a mum who will not admit she is ill and refuses to discuss it with me has left me burying my head in the sand and not able to do anything to actually help her for fear I will get the blame, as she never forgave my grandmother for having her sectioned. And if you disagree with any of her paranoid delusions then she thinks I'm in on it and part of the plot.
The last week or so I have been receiving texts from her saying that people are trying to kill, rape and mutilate her and that she needs me to kill them for her. Also messages that we are related to royalty, have millions of pounds in the bank and that I have brothers and sisters that were IVF babies born without her knowledge.
If I try to talk to her about it she immediately cuts me off if I say it's not real and hangs up on me. I dont really want to encourage her by going along with it either.
She also has form for acting normal with other people and saving the worst of her mental health to spew at me.
I called the emergency number for mental health and as they can't find her on their records there was nothing they could do and I was told to call emergency services which I am reluctant to do.
I spoke to a friend who is an ambulance medic and she said my choices as far as she knows would be to call 111 or 999 and explain the situation but it would be difficult to get them to do anything as Im not there with her in person or call the police and see if they can check on her, but to section her then both ambulance and police would need to be in attendance.
I do worry about her attacking anyone who tries to intervene as again she does have form for violence.
Its so hard to put a whole history into one post but does anyone have any experience of this or any advice that might not be as extreme as dialling 999?
I'm not keen on visiting her as I have a little boy who I would rather not be exposed to what I had to go through as a child. I'm torn between feeling incredibly guilty about not helping and wanting to ignore it and hope it goes away.

I feel sorry for you. She sounds similar to my mum who I’m sure has undiagnosed mental health issues. My mum hears voices, etc, thinks that God talks to her. However she’s an intelligent person and apart from telling immediate family would never mention these voices to anyone else. So it would be impossible to get her treated let alone sectioned.

She occasionally loses the plot and has a total hysterical melt down screaming and shrieking but again behind closed doors. She stabbed my dad once but dad didn’t press charges. She. Was rational enough with the police that it was just put down to losing her temper in an arguement. My had asked the gp about hpgettjng her sectioned but gp said unless she either admitted she needed help or lost it in public he couldn’t do anything.

Do you think if an ambulance came she would admit to hearing voices, etc?

I haven’t spoken to my mum in years, it all got too much.

Wondering if your Mum’s GP surgery could get involved and help.
Perhaps ask to speak to the health visitor if there is one, or drop a written note to her doctor and follow with a phone call. (There will be patient confidentiality issues to overcome...)

They may be able to organise a home visit on the basis of a “general health check”...it might be a way of opening doors?

Sorry you are dealing with this alone.

Well she obviously needs help op so you’re just going to have to do it really. Is she taking care of herself physically (eating washing etc)?

I've been told that anyone suffering with their mental health and are at risk to themselves or others then they need to go to A&E. If that means ringing 999 for an ambulance or Police (they do grade calls) then so be it. Hope it's sorted soon.