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To be fed up of moving out of the way

77 replies

Ghostlyglow · 09/05/2020 19:53

Of people walking/cycling towards me. I'm over 50 and so "invisible" I guessHmm. But people in their 20s mainly just don't seem to feel they have to go into single file and off I go onto the grass or the road Angry

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keepingbees · 09/05/2020 19:57

It's not your age, I'm in my 30s and experience the same (from older people too!) It seems to be the general entitled attitude these days.

lemonandlimes2 · 09/05/2020 19:57

I often find older retired couples the worst for this. Entitled. They walk slowly and block the pavements, now even more so in times of social distancing....

DangerMouse17 · 09/05/2020 20:00

The majority of the general public are entitled and lacking in basic manners in my view. All too self-absorbed unfortunately....

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Ghostlyglow · 09/05/2020 20:00

Yes! The slow ones - so slow they are moving more side to side rather than forwards - they're annoying too! Grin.

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HarrietTheShy · 09/05/2020 20:02

I remember as a child being scolded to do this. I hardly ever see parents bothering to teach it anymore.

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Ghostlyglow · 09/05/2020 20:05

I realise it's not always practical/possible to be 2m away. I just want both parties to at least appear to be making an effort. I just want good manners, I guess.

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Livedandlearned · 09/05/2020 20:06

I feel the same. And also find it frustrating when people don't say thank you when you hold a door open for them.

lemonandlimes2 · 09/05/2020 20:07

We should learn from ants

CallmeAngelina · 09/05/2020 20:11

The slow ones - so slow they are moving more side to side rather than forwards - they're annoying too!
Come on! If they're elderly, it's possibly quite an effort to be out walking at all and nimbly jumping to one side is clearly going to be easier for the younger person.
And how often are you out, for this to be such an issue for you?

Rhayader · 09/05/2020 20:16

I was driving to a hospital appt this week and kept having to swerve out of the way of pedestrians walking out into the road without looking to avoid people walking in the opposite direction 😬

anonymum95 · 09/05/2020 20:16

Have to say as someone in my 20's I'm finding the worst ones are the older generation and I'm the one that moves 90% of the time.

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Ghostlyglow · 09/05/2020 20:19

@CallmeAngelina I didn't mean the elderly. I never really see them out tbh. I think most of them are isolating, aren't they? Sorry if it came over like that.
And me? I'm out for my walk, doing shopping (no car) and taking shopping to my elderly in laws (who aren't going out) and, until recently, going to and from work - wfh now thoughSmile

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WoollyMollyMonkey · 09/05/2020 20:21

When I get fed up of having to do this, I stop and stand still, and then they have to move around me.

AhComeOnNow · 09/05/2020 20:21

I live in a small city and I'm finding that everyone is moving out of the way for everyone. All walking single file when having to pass others on narrower stretches and move in/stop and wait if the space is too small. Parents are ensuring children walking or on bikes give everyone space or stop and wait. Have not noticed any ages not distancing.

Actually - only people who don't are the homeless wandering the city centre who are off their faces.

1Morewineplease · 09/05/2020 20:22

Looks like everyone is annoyed at moving out of everyone’s way.
I’m fed up of having to move out of the way of young families where parents are two abreast , with a pushchair and a couple of young children who have , obviously, no idea of social distancing and feel that they can wander up to my dog to stroke it, without a single word from their parents.

iklboo · 09/05/2020 20:22

I remember as a child being scolded to do this. I hardly ever see parents bothering to teach it anymore.

Not scolded but DS(14) has been taught from an early age to move to the side / drop to single file if we encounter someone. Or stop and turn to one side to let people past.

CallmeAngelina · 09/05/2020 20:23

kept having to swerve out of the way of pedestrians walking out into the road
Ah, those halcyon days in the first week of Lockdown, when I could walk all the way from my house to the local woods without going on the pavement at all. Much easier to walk the dog without him cocking his leg on every fucking gatepost he passed. Now? Flipping cars everywhere!!!!

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/05/2020 20:23

I think I have the solution. I spent last Saturday's run getting off the trail repeatedly, not being thanked and having thick as mince people (who were clearly distancing from each other and so taking up the entire fucking path) refusing to get into single file.

This week I wore a buff (neck thingy for running). I cover my mouth as I approach and it somehow signals 'get the fuck out of my way'.

I want to get a t-shirt printed that says, "I work in housing and am still at work, approach at your own risk". I'm distancing for others. Not that the stupid, selfish arses understand that.

PilatesPeach · 09/05/2020 20:26

Yep I agree OP, I'm having to walk in the road with my small dog sometimes because a group of adult cyclists are taking up the whole of the shared pavement/cycle path. Some of the shared ones round here are hardly wider than a normal pavement and don't get me started on people cycling on actual pavements. 6am the other morning and we are walking along and an adult on a motorised scooter silently approached us from behind and then started tooting at me to get out of her way. I had to go into the road with my back to the traffic - why couldn't she have just glanced over her shoulder and if safe, pulled out to overtake us? I always seem to the be one getting out of the way - I hate confrontations although I do like a little wave or smile from the other person when I do move.

Sugarplumfairy65 · 09/05/2020 20:31

I'm in my 50's but, because of a disability (not noticeable) I do walk slowly and usually holding my husband's arm for support. Because of balance issues I would have to stay on the flat path. Sick to death of people strutting at me!

Unravellingslowly · 09/05/2020 20:35

When I get fed up of having to do this, I stop and stand still, and then they have to move around me.

Ahh maybe I should do this. I gave up on my daily walk 10 days ago after having to constantly cross the road because idiots with extendable dog leads, pairs power walking, solo older walkers and kids on scooters were not showing any signs of moving,

Have you ever had someone not & just walk past you? @WoollyMollyMonkey

theThreeofWeevils · 09/05/2020 20:35

how often are you out, for this to be such an issue for you?

Oh, please...
Daily, I hope, if she wants. Taking advantage of the good weather and getting some beneficial exercise. It's allowed, you know.

Foxyloxy1plus1 · 09/05/2020 20:37

Cyclists on the road and the pavements. Groups walking one dog. Prays and pushchairs.

I was tutted at today by a woman walking a dog on an extended lead. I moved a distance away and she shouted that the dog was scared of me.

Foxd0g · 09/05/2020 20:37

I'm incredibly slow - 35 weeks pregnant with PGP - trying not to become totally immobile!

I'm still the one moving aside for everyone sodding else. Older people are just as bad as the younger ones, if not worse.

I8toys · 09/05/2020 20:41

This is why I don't go out walking anymore. Families walking in a line - where the hell am I supposed to go?