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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To ask how your DCs have been coping in quarantine?

56 replies

greasyhairdontcare · 09/05/2020 18:42

Just curious honestly. Think my DD1 quite likes it, she's been watching TV in her pyjamas all day (aside from school, of course).

DD2 on the other hand is getting impatient and keeps telling me misses her friends. I feel bad for her - I haven't got her a phone yet and she spent the majority of her time outside before this. Might order her some good books online, anyone know of anything good? She's 11.

DS has been a nightmare TBH, always following me around and talking at me. I do feel a bit sorry for him too though, this hasn't been easy on the kids.

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greasyhairdontcare · 09/05/2020 18:47

My son has ADHD by the way, sorry that came across as harsh. Was in a bad mood when I typed it.

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Breckenridged · 09/05/2020 18:57

DD (age 6) has ups and downs. She is missing school, friends and activities a lot. She picks up on DH and me talking about the news. She’s anxious. But she’s also having a lot of fun with her younger brothers and playing with them in a lovely, unconstrained way that she doesn’t normally have time for. She’s wildly unenthusiastic about her school work (unusual) but developing lots of interests outside the curriculum and her reading has come on brilliantly.

DSes (4 and 1) are absolutely fine. 1 year presumably can’t remember any different. 4 year old claims to miss nursery - and I think he really did, at first - but is a bit of a homebody anyway and loves being with his siblings.

And all 3 kids love having DH around.

Cremebrule · 09/05/2020 19:00

3 year old hates it and has done since the beginning. Some children seem quite happy and unbothered and others just v unhappy. I think the home bods are finding it quite fun.

Waveysnail · 09/05/2020 19:06

Mine seem unbothered but they are close in age 7, 9 and 11. 11 year old is keeping in touch with friends and generally chilling out - he has adhd but is taking his meds otherwise he would climb the wall. The 7 and 9 year old play together. All ok as far as these things go

BlueGheko · 09/05/2020 19:11

My 11 year old has been fine mostly. Got a bit teary the Monday after the schools shut, says it was just the speed/shock of it all, fine for the next 6 weeks, quite enjoying home learning, and then Friday we had more tears, he's really missing his friends and school .

OnTheMoors · 09/05/2020 19:23

OP, my ds has ADHD (he is 13). I'm sure he is having another hormone surge, as he is chronically irritable. In his room all day , can't seem to stand being around me and DH

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 09/05/2020 19:26

My eight year old loves staying in

crazycrofter · 09/05/2020 19:37

@OnTheMoors snap, ds is 13 and has ADHD too. I thought he'd be better in lockdown as he doesn't like school (gets into trouble a lot, hates the acdemic side but has friends). I thought dd aged 15 and very very sociable would struggle.

But ds has been really grouchy and stroppy and he actually said the other day he was fed up of spending time with the same 3 people! Whereas dd has been great, chats to us a lot, gets on with things happily. I think ds actually needs the structure of school and he definitely needs the football in the playground at break times!

OnTheMoors · 09/05/2020 20:50

He isn't an affectionate child. Does not cuddle and hates any form of touch. It's very difficult isn't it. The hyperactivity has decreased so much but the mood and irritability is relentless

reluctantbrit · 09/05/2020 21:08

DD is nearly 13 and we have a mix of good and bad times.

She is borderline ADHD/ASD and the first two weeks were mayhem, loss of normal routine, not getting clear instructions from school and not seeing friends.

Easter holidays were ok-ish.

Back to school meant back to a bit moe structure, the school had a better system in place so there is more routine and less chaos. But she desperately misses friends and and also her hobbies, 6 weeks without exercise and especially riding is not good for her.

tempnamechange98765 · 09/05/2020 21:18

My DS' are 4 and 1, 4 year old was in school nursery half days and also wraparound childcare 2 days. He's up and down. I think he's fed up/frustrated of not being able to do anything, and it's hard going as he won't play on his own really and follows us around a lot. Very controlling, I think he's very anxious. Some days he's in quite a good mood though, just depends. I do have my doubts about whether he's 100% neurotypical although it's hard to say (I suffered with PND last year and fixated on him having something "wrong" with him).

One year old is none the wiser and probably loving life as he doesn't have to go to nursery! The big positive of lockdown is that both DH and I have been around all the time so we haven't missed anything with him - his first steps etc. That part of it is lovely.

formerbabe · 09/05/2020 21:21

My youngest is ok...she's a bit of a homebody...she loves arts and crafts, reading, puzzles etc. My eldest is secondary age and really missing his friends...he was starting to get some independence and now he's back to being stuck at home with us all the time.

Godzillasonice · 09/05/2020 21:27

My youngest 9 hates it and really misses their friends. 12 yr old couldn't care less and 15 yr old is really worrying me as they are refusing to eat and haven't had more that a few bites in weeks. The dr isn't helping much either and just said it's stress. They are wasting away and I don't know what to do.

BalanchineBallet · 09/05/2020 21:28

Mine is lonely. Only child due to subsequent infertility on my part. She misses school, she misses her friends, she misses rainbows, gymnastics, swimming. We play with her, we chat to her, I’m trying to help her learn, but she’s sad. Deep down sad, and I’m heart broken for her.

CharDeeMacDennis · 09/05/2020 21:33

DD is 15 and doing fine, although a bit bored and wishes she could go back to school.

Ds is 11 and totally fine. Floats about at a loose end sometimes, but is happy and sweet and affectionate as usual.

Both getting on with their schoolwork with minimal nudging from me. Both occupying themselves for long hours while I WFH.

Really impressed with them tbh.

I've so much respect for those with younger kids in all this, must be tough.

dementedma · 09/05/2020 21:36

18 year old ds bored and frustrated. Endlessly gaming. All shows and gigs cancelled for forseeable future ( he plays Bass). He's becoming argumentative and lazy

UncomfortableSilence · 09/05/2020 21:47

DD2 is 10 and is fine, gets on with her schoolwork, she's very motivated and is always finding things to do and learn and she's quite a homebody but she is missing her friends and teachers.

DD1 is 15 and I am increasingly worried about her, she also gets all her work done and is trying to focus on revision but she is becoming more and more anxious and down each day, she's very emotional and has lost her appetite. She's very sociable and loves being out with her friends.

CroissantsAtDawn · 09/05/2020 21:56

Mine are 6 and 8. Both are loving spending so much time with us. 6 year old is thrilled to no longer be "eating" school dinners. 8 year old thrilled not to be in school although hating the 4-6 hours daily schoolwork...

Neither are really missing their friends but they are playing together all the time. Both have had teary phases, especially at the beginning.

However they are really struggling with the restrictions- no swimming, no sports clubs, can't go further than 1km from the flat or out longer than an hour. Can't have friends round. Can't go to parks. Can't go to the forest or the beach. Visit to grandparents cancelled. At least 1 weekend away cancelled and most likely a holiday too.

The eldest is often grumpy and shouty anyway but the lockdown has not helped.

Both have been needing a lot more cuddles than normal.

isoblue · 09/05/2020 21:59

Making the best of it, is probably the best description. They’re not happy about it but have accepted it for what it is and enjoying the slower pace of life. Missing family, friends and school. But loving having their Dad home every day and enjoying the extra bits we’re doing at home that we wouldn’t normally have the time/inclination for!

Easilyanxious · 09/05/2020 22:02

My nearly 15 year old is starting to struggle now he's missing school.( never thought I would hear that )
Misusing his friend last , and all his sport and nearly his birthday and not looking forward to it much In potential lockdown , he said not the best time to be a teen and it's worse as it's happened in the nicer months when he would be out with friends etc and I rekey feel for him as should be a time when life is carefree

underneaththeash · 09/05/2020 22:05

2 hate it - I’m worried about my 11yo he has exams soon and he’s really unhappy.
Almost 14yo fine, he’s really anti social anyway, Speaks to friends online. Only one at state school and it’s useless.
DD 9yo - school okay, misses her friends.

likeafishneedsabike · 09/05/2020 22:15

DS1 is 10 and is coping well. Homebody anyway and can cope with the idea of a learning platform with virtually present teachers.
DS2 is 8 and is coping less well. Sporty, sociable type who is too young to really get the virtual learning platform. He needs more interaction.
They would both generally do about 3 to 4 hours of exercise per day normally so they are both a bit under exercised. I try to be tolerant when this turns them into nutters.

Passthecake30 · 09/05/2020 22:24

Yr 7 is missing his friends and school. Rushing through hw in order to spend too much time on the Xbox, but every time I challenge it he says it’s the only way he can play with friends.

Yr 5 dd is getting increasingly lazy. Does a little bit of hw (school doesn’t mark it so it doesn’t motivate her much) and once she’s decided it’s enough... does battle with me until she can stare at her iPad.

I’m wfh full time and I realise I give in to the electronics too quick.

MinkowskisButterfly · 09/05/2020 22:24

Dd1 (17) really struggled the first two weeks before lockdown - she has asd and only attended to support groups (not able to attend college due to severe anxiety) and these were cancelled I definitely - she was angry. After a couple of weeks she settled and has handled it brilliantly.

Dd2 (5) also asd. She has been up and down - didnt really have friends as such,.was really struggling with school, she was just beginning to come out of her shell in reception class. Her mood changes so quickly at the minute. So emotional and so angry.

Bonkersblond · 09/05/2020 22:24

DD12 coping ok, has some structure to her days, following school time table, dancing lessons via zoom, was unsure how these would work but glad she has them to keep her focused and active. Missing her friends but keeps in touch via social media. DS16 is struggling, very sociable and likes to be out with his friends, extremely moody, spends more time than even he likes gaming, bit worried about him actually, opened up tonight and he says lockdown is getting to him.

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