AIBU to be fed up of my partner's behaviour?

[lovemelovemydogs]

My partner and I had an argument today over our daughter. He felt that I did not back him. Consequently he told me to "f**k off" and get my stuff and get out of the house. Things I have bought in the house have been taken down and put in the hall for me to take with me. He tells me he has broken all the flowers I have planted in pots and poured away any alcohol I had in the cupboards. Am I being unreasonable to be getting fed up with this?

Leave he wont change

What the hell?! I thought it'd be the usual lockdown irritations. That's outrageous behaviour. You can't go back to that.

Sod that, life is too short to have to put up with that shit regardless of how 'remorseful' he is. Can't feel that bad if this is a common occurrence.

Is there anywhere you could go until you find a place of your own

No issue with my drinking, just spite, as per the plants.

Ok, so the relationship is over. If it's his house and you're not married, then you would need to move out.

Are you the primary carer? In which case your daughter should come with you (given his behaviour, you should take her with you either way).

What options do you have for safe places to move out to? Make sure you get as much important paperwork as you can.

Christ on a bike, I'd have been off the first time he behaved like that, I wouldn't hang around until I got "fed up".

He sounds abusive, OP and if things like this keep happening, he will never change.

I'd get the fuck out of Dodge, stay with a friend, family whatever and make an appointment with the council on Monday on the basis that you and DD are now homeless. If nothing else, they will help you find somewhere to rent privately and possibly lend you funds for rent in advance/deposit if you don't have the money yourself.

Has this been going on throughout your whole relationship ?

Your teaching you daughter that it’s acceptable to be treated like this and that abusive relationships are ok.

Thank you I didn’t know that

Sorry that was for Lakielady. I wasn’t being rude.