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To think there’s someone like this in every workplace?

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DoorKnobber · 08/05/2020 07:31

Some one who is arrogant and opinionated, disliked by many colleagues but is good at their job?!

I have one in my work place, I’ve only been there a year and been able to to tolerate him, even get on with him, but he is so self centred, full of opinions as in never shuts up and has an answer for everything... guaranteed he’ll speak out in meetings, usually against everything anyone else has said.

I doubly don’t like him atm (which I think is where this thread has come from) as he has has recently twisted something I Have said to him about working with another colleague. He’s gone and told her that I’ve been slagging her off! Luckily she had the sense to come to me about it and we’ve sorted it. But I really want to confront him about it, but there seems no point as it won’t change him!

Do you have a colleague like this? How do you deal with them?

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boylovesmeerkats · 08/05/2020 10:42

Yeah I think this is me too, except I'm female and everyone else in my team is underperforming in their job in a variety of ways. Anyway got myself a promotion so I get the hell away from the losers.

I can't bear working with people who all agree with the stupidest of ideas, that are cliquey and bitchy and turn on the competent ones.

PerspicaciaTick · 08/05/2020 10:47

I like working with people who are arrogant and opinionated about doing an excellent job, and who have the skills and expertise to back it up...provided they dial it down for non-work related interactions.
Can't bear people who shit stir and spread gossip.

jackdawdawn · 08/05/2020 10:50

Yes, there is one in every workplace.

Strangely, it's usually a 'he'.

It's usually someone lonely, long-term single or divorced, so their colleagues have to be their audience.

They take a contrarian position in meetings, they like to push the boundaries as far as they can without getting into trouble (and if they do they are being victimised), and they will often try to say outrageous things. The sort of man who talks about sex a lot. I had one who liked to talk openly about his porn habit, and complain about how no women were interested in him. Amazingly, he never seemed to connect the two.

DoorKnobber · 08/05/2020 11:44

Actually @hopeishere has hit the nail on the head... he’s good at the bits he likes or chooses to do and shit at the rest.

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DoorKnobber · 08/05/2020 11:55

Yes @burdog. I think they’re a lost cause

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lidoshuffle · 08/05/2020 12:35

@MsCupcake "My default now is to smile beatifically at them, and trace “fuck off you twat” on the roof of my mouth with my tongue 😉 and if they are really on a roll I award myself bonus points for using alternative fonts."

GrinGrinGrinGrinGrin Brilliant!

DrDreReturns · 08/05/2020 12:39

Haven't got any people like this at the moment. But the last two jobs have been in small businesses. When I worked in a large public sector organisation it was rife.
Where I work now they are quite ruthless. Anyone stirring would, and has, been given the boot.

maddy68 · 08/05/2020 13:44

Or just reply with I’m sorry the penis enlargement operation failed for you but you don’t have mean with others because of it. Now go rub your nub.

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